Prompted by
@pjcnet 's thread on Uber drivers, I wanted to ask you what you thoughts are on the practice of tipping - giving extra money on top of the advertised price for services, in taxis or in restuarants, for example. Do you give tips? Do you think it's right to do so?
As a person on the spectrum, I find this system of tip giving highly problematic and it causes me a lot of anxiety... so, the price is 10 euros, but actually no, it's 11 euros, because you are
supposed to give a tip, which is
supposed to be optional, except that it isn't optional, because if you don't give one, it has consequences like a poor rating and you are 'punished' for it, or you are judged and branded as being mean and stingy - even though it is your right not to give one. And there is no clear rule about it, you are supposed to tip according to what you think the person should get, what you think they deserve - you are being asked to make a judgement about that person at put a financial value on that person. And then they make a judgement about you based on how much money you gave them! It's totally wrong and it sucks!
It makes me feel very anxious and reluctant to use any service where tipping is expected because of the lack of clear rules in most circumstances, to the extent that I avoid being in situations where one is suppsed to give a tip. As a person on the spectrum, I find this system of hidden, unspoken social rules and expectations a minefield and difficult to navigate. I just wish there were clear rules for it, that tipping is 10% for example, that would make it easier - or better still, that it didn't exist at all. Employees shouldn't have to rely on tips to make a decent living, they should be paid a decent wage from the start. The price of a service should be up front and transparent, no hidden costs: the advertised price is the price you pay. You agree to a price before accepting the service, that is the price you should be expected to pay, not more.
A person providing a service needs to be paid fairly. So, I'd much rather pay 11 euros with the tip included, than 10 euros but you are supposed to pay a tip so it becomes 11 euros. I like things to be simple, straightforward, upfront and honest. The price of the taxi ride is 11 euros, it is advertised as 11 euros, and that is what I pay, No more, no less.