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Asperger's Syndrome & Autism News & Forum
If after four days lost and barefoot in the woods you hear a rescuer shout your name and you respond, "What?"
Your computer's hard drive is in perfect order but you see no reason for making your bed every day.
If you count your time at the check out counter as social interaction.
You were a Trekkie way before it was cool.
You hold your breath down the detergent aisle.
If you've ever translated anything at all into Klingon.
Before baking a cake you read a book on the chemistry of baking to find out what exactly each ingredient does, how they all interact, and exactly what happens at each stage of the baking process.
Your pets have more social interaction than you do.
There are holes in all your clothes where the tags used to be...
The thought, "there has to be a pattern to this" is a major theme of your life.
I found these all familiar, this is from:You Might Be An Aspie If...
Please add more that apply, if you can think of some.
It seems there's two side to the debate.
Cureists who want to cure the disease of autism as they see it.
People with autism who think we are fine as we are, so just leave us alone. Autism is not a disease.
These two camp seem irreconcilable at first, but I got thinking and it seems to me they are both flawed, and that the flaw comes not from the reality of autism, but from a single term being used to describe both our neurology, and the problems that many autistic people have.
Imagine if being black and sickle cell anaemia had the same name (hope that's not offensive, I couldn't think of another example).
If we had a word to describe our neurology, and another for our problems, would anyone mind people trying to cure our problems?
But if they did the equivalent of trying to cure us of being black, society would understand our outrage, as it has obvious parallels.
Since all this hit, I am all mixed up.
I don't feel male but I LOATHE anything female. I was looking at the med braceletts and felt ill looking at the frilly ones. I went to the Mens section and YAY! I saw ones I liked. I buy t-shirts only in hte male section because female section does cutesy things with tshirts I hate.
I guess I am seeking to look androgynous just automatically.
Has this happened to anyone?? I had clothes that were female of course. Jeans and stuff. DUMPED!
I feel best when I am no gender.
Yet, when I do vids on my special interest (not autism ) then I DO look like my gender (F). I even comb my hair!
So I am all mixed up. I never FEEL female, but I do present as F in some occasions. I never feel male, either.
I FEEL like a prepubescent child of no gender. I think I am going crazy,
Has anyone just had their gender drop right off??
Hi all. I feel terrible after reading articles and blogs on a website which describe the experiences of wives of Asperger's men.
I could hardly believe what I was reading. It was hard to endure. Now, I feel like some kind of monster because I am not sure whether I have ever treated people, especially women, this way.
I am not married, but reading stuff like this makes me feel really guilty for wanting to ever get married.
The website states that Aspie men (like me) are akin to psychopaths and narcissists, and have the same effect in a relationship. They say being married to an Aspie man is like being ignored, invalidated all the time, abused, and their life destroyed. They say Aspie men never give them attention and always blame the wife for everything, and last but not least - are totally incapable of loving her.
I almost cried reading that last part. I mean, I believe that I can love a special girl in my life very much, and I want to treat her so well and do everything for...
I am curious to know more about the way Aspergers was taken out of the DSM and placed under Autism. I know a few people with Aspergers who are very adamant they they are NOT mentally ill (i tend to agree) and want Aspergers not to even be under the umbrella of Autism.
I would like to ask people with Asperger's how they feel about this? Is it an illness?
When I was dxed, it was Autism NOS. It was not Aspergers and I assumed this was because I don't funciton all that well. But I learned that the amount of functioning between Aspergers and HFA and Autism NOS does not really matter when it comes to dx. This makes even less sense to me because the next dr may say I have Aspergers!
Now I do NOT function well, so if Aspergers was not in the DSM, there would not be this confusion. My dx would then be based on the fact that I was not functioning and then I could accept that whatever I had needed some help there.
So if someone functions OK in any of the categories and does not want to be...
So yer basically I had a long 5 hour session today at the mental health unit in my local hospital (an appointment 3 years in the making since my initial referral from the councillor at my request) accompanied by my mum.
The lady we saw was very nice and it was basically a series of questions and discussions based around the qualifying criteria to establish if I had autism spectrum disorder (aspergers is no longer being used as a diagnosis) from which she was taking notes. After just half of the session was over she was satisfied that I could be diagnosed as having ASD (which was a relief to my unshakable belief that I did) but the questions and discussions continued after the lunch break to help build up a portfolio for my personal condition.
The kind of questions I was asked was largely based around my life from birth to present day. In the UK you're requested to bring a close family member with you whose known you since birth (so I brought my mum along) to make answering some of...
Erm, we broke up. This year was meant to be the year we got married but he said my anxiety and depression was killing him. He tells me I need to get better on my own and maybe in a few YEARS we could try again. He will find someone else before that happens and once again my Asperger's has ruined everything. If only I could have the courage to talk about how I feel rather than bottling everything up. And now I've left and it's been nearly a week and I still can't sleep and keep being sick. I'm a total wreck. Some kind words would be much appreciated. X
I couldnt find a thread specifically for pets so here it is
I have 5 dogs: A min pin named Kellie and 4 Yorkies: Rocky and Bullwinkle, Joey and Comet.
Rocky and Bullwinkle are twins except Rocky is about 8 lbs and Bullwinkle is about 2 lbs. He is a shrimp. Joey and Comet shared the same home with their breeder so they are buds. Comet always wants to challenge Kellie, the Alpha Female, over whats in one of the 5 food bowls. Kellie always wins.
I also have 4 turtles: Abercrombie, Fitch, Sanford and Son. Abrercrombie and Sanford are about 5 inches. Fitch and Son less so. We bond.
Is thirty too late to go back to college or community college ? It seems like it would feel awkward to be the oldest in class with a bunch of college freshmen. I would feel like that twenty something year old still stuck in the eleventh grade. I had one of those people in my class before. It would feel like I was dead last and light years behind everyone else who hadn't nearly wasted ten years goofing off with no direction in their lives. I could be the smartest one in class and It would feel like that meant crap because I procrastinated for so long.
People told me that it's never too late to go back to school but they don't know what it would feel like to be the loser who waited too long.
I posted here:
Vent: Psychiatrist doubting suspected diagnosis
not so long ago after seeing my psychiatrist. My ADOS is booked for tuesday, but it's becoming a huge stressor for me. Dissociation is a big problem for me, and due to the stress it's been causing me i've been dissociating pretty constantly since I last saw her. I'm very worried that I won't get the diagnosis even if I tick all the boxes, as she's told me that she doesn't think I am autistic anymore after diagnosing me with PTSD. The alternative diagnosis she's offering is social anxiety but I know that if I got treated for social anxiety it wouldn't help me as I have had issues with socialising way before I experienced anxiety in them, and I no longer do experience said anxiety but I still have the problems with understanding other people and socialising. I don't know what to do. If I don't get this diagnosis I will have to go private and pay up to £1500 which I just cannot afford. I've lost all faith in...
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