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The title says it all. How do I ask for affection? I know if someone is affectionate to me I can return it in the same way (learned it from an online course on relationships). But what if I'm the one who wants to start it?
It's rare for me to feel connected to people but I do enjoy when an understanding someone is sweet to me and strokes my hair or do things like that, it feels like I'm dreaming of Heaven.
People around me seem to get it often without asking. How do they do it?
I've asked them and they didn't seem to understand the question or said they never thought about it, "it just happens".
The times I asked for affection it turned out awkward because I didn't understand how it worked.
When I was a child I would say "I think I have lice" so my aunt would run her fingers through my hair. (I think everyone did this at least once).
Can someone explain how I should ask (or not ask) for it? Is it something you say or do? Am I supposed to just rub against them like a cat? (jk)...
What are some of the qualities your "ideal" mate has? I have a few ideas for mine(note that since I personally am a heterosexual male, I will use feminine pronouns to describe my ideal mate, feel free to substitute masculine personal pronouns if applicable):
You would watch paint dry, just to be with her.
When she's around, the sun seems to shine just as little bit brighter.
You could easily see yourself growing old with her.
The first thing you want to see every morning is her face.
You would die for her.
She does the little things that you like.
She respects your opinions, even if she doesn't agree with them.
She wants to be your partner, not your Siamese twin.
She makes your world better just by being in it.
Just thinking about her makes you happy.
I'm kind of annoyed in some ways that having had behavioral problems throughout most of my school life (especially through having to see a councillor on and off roughly between ages 7-9) that I was never suspected or diagnosed with aspergers sooner than age 25 and yet others (admitedly some of whom showed stronger or more obvious symptoms) had the luxury of a much earlier diagnosis in their life and could at least have something to attribute some or most of their problems to. My mum (who made my unoficial diagnosis through some training at her pre-school) was the one who suspected this of me and then retracted the assumption a long time after (by which time I knew much more than her and was totally convinced). It's still potentially going to be a long wait before an official diagnosis, but I want to hear from others.
How old were you when you were suspected of this?
Who suspected it?
What country and or health service (if any) were you diagnosed or helped under?
What did your...
Five female friends I went to Uni with ( we are all 60 ) want to go away for three days to Sydney and stay in an apartment together and they want me to come too. Help.......they are all 100% NT and talk non stop and are so social. I run out of things to talk about after 5 minutes as I don't like gossip or talking about other people and I just don't need to talk all the time and when i do want to talk I cannot get a word in anyway and by then the conversation has moved on and what I wanted to say is no longer relevant. I need a lot of alone quiet time. I just don't think i will cope being in such close quarters with them for that long
I have told one of the group who is a lifelong friend that I am on the spectrum ( high functioning Aspie) when I refused to go interstate to her 60th as I don't like parties so I felt obliged to explain but she doesn't get it and just thinks I don't try hard enough . Social situations create enormous stress for me before and during and I really only...
I've always wanted to be special and impress people. I daydream a lot about having superpower and saving the world. Every time I meet someone I can't stop bragging about what I've done and what I can do. Sometimes I even try to lead the discussion in order to let him/her ask about my talents. I'm not that kind of people who suck at everything and lack confidence. I just enjoy people's "Wow!" and their face in awe too much. I get upset when people say somebody is better than me. I try my best to prove that I'm special and better.
I'm tired of it now. Why am I such a shallow person? Is it an Aspie thing or just my own problem?
I hear a lot about people on the spectrum having gastrointestinal issues. Often I hear of cases where they are detected in childhood.
Those of you who have them, when did they develop? Did any of you develop them later, as teens or adults?
I have irritable bowel syndrome (since age 17) and I'm not sure if I am an Aspie. I may try to find out at some point. But I just wanted to ask because the connection between autism spectrum traits and gut issues is of great interest to me.
It terrifies me to be put under a microscope being analyzed and inspected by Healthcare officials. NT's unheartedly assume, "it's all in my head". No, it's not! I will be in an unfamiliar place alone and trembling trying to get the right words out to explain aspergers. And not just Aspergers, but also ADD, PTSD and SAD. Plus the fact that I will have to drive in heavy flow traffic to get there is overwhelming me. Any suggestions on what I can say to these people to not get condemned as a psychopath? I don't even know if I'm making any sense in this thread, but I sure would appreciate some help. Thanks!
Here is a thread to discuss our favorite western Movies,Television shows,books. As some of you may know I happen to enjoy westerns. Particularly Have Gun Will Travel, Gunsmoke,Longmire. Recently I happen to realize that I'm not the only one who does.
I've been recently watching HGWT on YouTube. I'm wondering if anyone would happen to know what kind of handgun paladin always has concealed on him, most of the time tucked behind his belt buckle. It seems to me to be a small double barrel derringer. That's as far as I know.
I called my therapist a scary lady and she seemed upset. I told her not to take it personally. I'm so nervous around her I shake. I said she was a scary lady as we were going down the hall to her office and she said something about social norms and controlling symptoms. Like she was upset I'd say it in public. But I don't see I did anything wrong but she made me feel like I should apologize so I did but she could tell it was an empty apology. What did I do wrong? I wish she had told me.
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