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Why would I want to get away from love?
My cousin and me have the same issue. We are very high-functioning autistics, and lots of people wouldn't even notice. Unlike other adults however, we are ok with playing sometimes. Just like any other aspie, we have our own set of challenges regarding our behavior and these things, however, what makes us blatanly different from a slightly-less functioning aspie friend I met outside the family, is that we comparatively need a lot of extra effort to have an "adult-like" attitude, which my teleiophile aspìe friend can do naturally. I'm not sure if this correlationate with our drive to work in videogames, but perhaps for mine individual case it have to do with the fact that, deep inside me, for some reason I feel like a child, as in, 13 years old?. See, it's not about mental/intellectual retardment, but... more about the kind of things we think and pay attention to, our preferences, the way we think about things, etc. It's a...
I was just reminded by something I just saw.
A friend posted a vintage photo of Niagara Falls, and reminded me of when I lived in Ontario between 2000 and 2003, several times I drove through the Niagara Falls region and never once stopped to look at the falls.
You see I was always on my way to a classic car show in the United States, must have priorities! On my way to take a few photos, and enjoy myself looking at old cars.
I never did make it to Niagara Falls when I wasn't going to a car show, then simply moved back to Alberta again. In the meantime, I have lots of vintage photos in my collection of them.
Should I take a text to be offensive at times? I would text some people to have a converstation and in the last minute I never hear from him or her again. I feel like I had said something stupid or the person just starts to hate me for no reason. I also feel like iam bothering people when iam texting and that's why I don't do it as much because again I feel like a nuisance to people.
Let me get to the point now. I have been talking to this new friend I have made with who is also going to A&M for two weeks. I don't talk to her everyday because iam trying to respect her boundaries. She would talk to me first and see how iam doing but when I try to have a conversation with her I don't here again until a few hours later I know I felt like I have been annoying or said something stupid. I've had people to where they will never talk to me no more Am I doing something wrong because it dosent seem to matter how respectful of a person iam anymore.
I thought I had made a true friend...
This has been reworded from the original post, so if anyone wants to answer, then you are welcome to.
If you had a choice between more than adequate life skills, a decent career and a healthy long term relationship, what order would you pick them?
The relationship between an ASD and a NT (normal) spouse is complicated and causes great pain for most.
I'm the ASD guy, and my wife is the NT woman. We have had trouble for years, studied many books and sites, and seen a psychologist.
None of it seemed to work very much, and then she happened upon a site call happyaspergermarriage.
What a hyper real site. This woman is not a professional, however I think she has it nailed. Check out this rant against her ASD husband: ASPIE HUSBAND: WHY AM I SO ANGRY? – Happy Asperger Marriage
Wow. Warning, this is actually hard for me to read. I find it emotionally attacking. And it is very long. Because I had a strong emotional reaction to it, I couldn't read it all in one go. I can compare with her husband; I may not be that bad, but that's not the point. His faults are my faults. Her reaction is my wife's reaction.
She narrows it all down to empathy, and she does it well here: HOW TO TEACH EMPATHY TO...
I had an interview last week for a Telesales and Door to Door sales position at a local Marketing firm, and I'm expecting a call on the mobile on Monday to see if I was successful, but to be honest I don't think the job is suitable for me and if I'd known about the Door to Door aspect I would've declined the interview.
However, because I have customer facing service experience having worked in Charity shops since May 1995, should I try applying for part time work in this field? Obviously there would be issues regarding me working in a call centre due to the fact I wear a hearing aid, I know that under "reasonable adjustments" they're legally obliged to accommodate that, but is it worth the hassle and extra expense for the company to source special headsets and stuff?
The problem for me with Door to Door sales is that I don't drive due to disability and it's very unlikely I ever will, so logistically getting between clients would be a nightmare, plus I don't think I have...
ever since I was little, someone very close to me used to point out how self centered I was. I suspect they are an empath, as they are always trying to help everyone and reached out to everyone, even if they didn't know them. since I didn't constantly try to help everyone, this person used to scold me on my lack of empathy and called me a monster. I feel terrible, but I see the world in black and white, there is no gray area. I often feel like something is wrong with me, and even though I try to be kind, sometimes I can only be honest. and that honesty comes off as me being rude. I know lack of empathy is a very well known aspie trait- can aspies and empaths live in harmony? because it really doesn't look like they can. that said, i'm tired of feeling like there is something wrong with me, and starting to wonder if I really am a monster or heartless, because this person keeps criticizing me for it. I know I am not a psychopath, and I do feel pity and grief for people- mostly anime...
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