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One of my main difficulties in social interaction is "small talk", it's something that feels so unnatural to me but it's a social convention that helps build connections with people, something which I also struggle with.
When I come into work on a Monday morning I ask people if they had a good weekend, and try to develop it into a conversation. My colleagues don't seem to do much after work during the week apart from watch television. I don't watch much television or follow any sport, I've tried, I can't get my head around it. Especially the following sport, surely it would be more fun to play the sport yourself rather than watch strangers play.
I've found that I refer to the weather quite a lot when I try and make small talk, which quickly kills conversation off.
Does anyone have any tips on making small talk with people??
It took me many years to realized this about myself, but I starting to understand being around people drains me. I will give some examples about myself.
Family: For having a large family, there is always lots of people at family events. At least 30 to 50 people and sometimes even more. With all the conversations going on, and me not able to connect with anyone, I feel left out. During this process, it does drain lots of energy around me. All is on my mind is I want to leave as soon as I can. Family gatherings on average for my family is at least 6 hours yet it feels like a full day to me.
Co workers: Anything related to work social events drains me deeply. I always end up being bored for these type of things. I decided to decline for all future events as it no point for me. The exception if it during office hours, then I'm kinda stuck since I would lose pay during that time if I didn't show up. Though I could use a vacation day which is something I might try to do next...
Most ice breaker activities/games (or any other group activities) look really childish and silly to me. For example, poking each others' noses, pretending to be a frog, or smashing cream pies.
Those are games for kids, yet many adults seem to enjoy it and act like a 12-year-old. I just don't understand! We're grown-ups, shouldn't we be discussing a new movie or the conflict in North Korea? Are we Aspies more mature? What happens to an NT's brain when he plays such silly games? How can they enjoy themselves when I'm embarrassed as hell?
I'm Australian and I somehow have a Canadian accent. I don't hear it at all, to me I sort of just sound flat and sort of childlike. Around people, I don't know, or around lots of people, I get extremely soft spoken and sometimes have selective mutism when my anxiety gets really bad. But everyone always asked me where I'm from and about my accent. I even had a guy from Scotland with a heavy Scottish accent asking about my accent and if I was from Canada. How does that even happen? I can't hear it at all. My Dad has always tried to correct me for talking like an American because I'm Australian, not American. But I can't fix it because I can't even hear it. I just know I have an accent because EVERYONE keeps commenting on it. If no one had said anything I would never have known. I can hear everyone else accents just not my own. Like I said to me I just sound flat. Every time someone comments about my accent I don't even know what to say to them. It used to really upset me when people...
(KTVN/AP) Several British hospitals say they are having major computer problems as the result of an apparent cyberattack.
Hospitals in London, northwest England and other parts of the country are reporting problems with their computer systems Friday. They have asked patients not to come to the hospitals unless it was an emergency.
NHS Merseyside, which operates several hospitals in northwest England, tweeted that "following a suspected national cyberattack, we are taking all precautionary measures possible to protect our local NHS systems and services."
Britain's National Health Service is a great source of pride for many in the nation but has been facing substantial budget issues.
Pictures posted on social media showed screens of NHS computers with images demanding payment of $300 worth of the online currency Bitcoin, saying: "Ooops, your files have been encrypted!"
United Kingdom's Health Service Hit by Ransomware Attack
Hi all, I would love some advice. I apologize if I say anything incorrect, I'm a little out of my realm here (and still hurting a bit). I had been dating an aspie for about 7 months (I'm NT). Some of our relationship could be rocky because he would pull away or our communication could be difficult and he was often worried about us not being able to connect because he had bad past experiences with his ex gf who was NT but I really appreciated him and wanted to work on us getting through anything he was worried about. Because we had issues, i felt like there was nothing we couldn't get through. He would sit and talk for hours to get over anything I was concerned about and same with me. I really felt like a team with him (there were things I did find hurtful he did say we could get over in time - some of the distance he needed, his bluntness, etc). But he was the best man I ever met (for me) and my best friend.
about 4.5 weeks ago, we got into a rather big fight for us. I think it...
(Not written by me)
Ajay Childs had only recently started using the school bus 'because he doesn't deal with crowds' when he came home with a broken thumb, whiplash and swelling to his face
An autistic boy was punched 10 times in the head and strangled with his own tie for having special needs, his distraught mum has claimed.
Year 10 pupil Ajay Childs, who has only recently starting using the school bus because he does not cope well with crowds, was allegedly attacked by two bullies on his way home from school on Monday.
The 15-year-old was listening to music on his headphones when the vile students launched a brutal attack in front of horrified children.
Ajay's mum Kelly said she believes her son was targeted for having special needs, and is demanding that more is done to protect vulnerable young people.
"Ajay has a broken thumb, concussion, whiplash, swelling to his face and cuts and bruises under his eye," Kelly, 36, told the Mirror Online.
"He's also still completely...
At work. Trying to concentrate. All I can hear is the cackling, shrieky, noisy gaggle of people and that's over my headphones playing some serious technical death metal.
I feel like shouting, "Shut the **** up! Did nobody teach you about indoor voices?!?!"
...but it's probably just me, my autobotism and my hyperaucusis / misophonia.
Can anyone relate?
Hello! Let me start off by saying that this isn't a troll post, or anything to start up a fight or offend people. And if I posted this in the wrong forums, apologies in advance. But recently I've been having trouble with a friend who has Aspergers, and I'm looking for tips in order to solve this particular problem I've been having with him.
First of all, I see this guy as a close friend, almost like a little brother. I've been friends with him for years, and I truly care about his well being. I try to do all I can to support him when he's down in the dumps. (Since his family is less than supportive to him emotionally) And not only that, he and I have a TON of nerdy things in common that I love chit chatting with him about.
Now, I don't want to make him look bad, nor do I want him to come off as a terrible person. But... He has absolutely no filter at all in our discussions whatsoever. Him not being 'politically correct is saying it lightly. Out of the blue, he would start...
I wonder is Aspie's are prone to stubbornness?
I'm very easy going simply because I'm not that bothered one way or the other about most things.
However, with things that are important to me, I am utterly immovable. I'm like the terminator, and I'll never stop, never give up until I get where I want to be or get destroyed by a bigger, better terminator.
I wondered to a friend whether she thought I was stubborn (I wasn't sure at the time). Her response was that I'm the most stubborn person she's ever met, and that is really saying something.
I took that as a yes.
Also as a compliment
I'm a 10.
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