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Well this question is specific and about one person. I know this will be something I would have discuss with a girlfriend, but currently I'm single. I've seen multiple times that disclosure is on a needs to know basis. I agree with this. Mike has been my best friend since grade school. He's the only person who's really tried to understand all the bad **** that has gone along with my mood disorder that's been happening to me for the last decade. He really tries to understand but he really doesn't get it. So much so that I got the sense that his confusion was an impediment to our friendship so I shut him down on asking questions a few years ago. He's (almost) Ph.D. in nuclear physics. I've read and now I see that a lot of high level science and math guys (and gals) have some of the aspie traits. He has a couple, but I would never say he is an aspie. This is the only person I'm thinking about disclosing any of this to. I believe it would actually help him make sense of all the stuff...
Me and my ex have been together since we were kids, over 20 years ago. Married young, had a lot of children together. In our marriage, he always cheated around and it only got worse as time went on. I reached my breaking point a few years ago and we separated again. Through it all, I've been our children's sole caretaker and as we have been through so much together, we are close and have bonded moreso together. I have always been a homeschooling mother and have no intention of changing that just because their father walked out on us. I got a great job outside the home now and have the flexibility to still be with my children and homeschool.
But now my ex has a girlfriend and she is pushing all of these changes. She wants our divorce finalized and everyone to move on with their lives.
My problem is that I am not handling these changes well at all. At my ex's insistence years ago, I have the children with me all the time, save for each Saturday when they hang out with him before...
It seems like a common aspie trait combination is to have poor short-term memory but excellent or even photographic long-term memory. This is the case with me. Because of my difficulty with short term memory I tend to switch between living in the moment and living in my memory. If I recall something early in childhood the picture is not always clear. It is looks similar to an impressionist photograph. Important moments in my life stand out and I can see these pictures or movies (sequence of events) very clearly. I also have buried memory; things that don’t stand out as important (that I’ve never thought or obsessed over) but I will randomly recall very clearly as an image. When I’m in a memory I relive it, and I can’t always perceive the difference in time when these events occurred (i.e. something that occurred 1 year ago feels the same as something that occurred 10 years ago). I have the sensation that I am reliving a memory but I don’t have a sensation that I am reliving the...
I like the word overclocking because it is an accurate analogy to what happens to me. There are times I become so obsessive about some topic that I can't get the subject off my mind and feel a compulsion to keep diving into it. I incessantly think about it to the point I become mentally exhausted. It can make me fall asleep during the day or trigger migraines. Also it can cause me to creep into mania (the two states are remarkably similar). Long hikes, relaxing routines, immersion in stories (TV, movies, etc.) are some of my coping mechanisms but they don't always work. I am interested to hear how other aspies deal with overclocking.
I have a very good long term memory, I can remember particular incidents in detail from many many years ago.
I can remember names and places from when I was very young, and always remember birthdays, phone numbers and addresses.
My short term memory on the other hand is bloody awful. I'm forever forgetting appointments and dates for things at my kids school, forgetting things I need to do or things I need to get at shops etc.
Is this something that is attributed to AS?
So while dealing with the possibility that I may have AS, I now have had referrals made for two of my three children....
My eldest is 8 and I broached the subject of AS to her teacher as she pretty much ticked all the boxes (aside from speech and language development... She was an early and very good talker) so they agreed and have put in a referral for her.
Well I had a meeting with my 2yr olds nursery worker, who said he is phenomenal with numbers for his age and said she'd like to speak to someone to learn how to better help him further with this. (She also mentioned he doesn't like playing with other children and gets very upset when they get in his personal space) I had a letter through the door this morning telling me that a referral has been made to the Early Years SENCO for him.
So now I have 2 children potentially on the spectrum aswell as myself, and all this has come about in the space of a couple of months...
So much to take in!!
I love it. I grew up in the 1980's, and owned a Commodore 16 back in 1984 and then a Commodore 64 around 1987, up until 1995. I got back into it all around 2005. I acquired both machines again on eBay.
Both the C16 and C64 are now souped up with modern SD card technology, no more tapes or disks and instant loading. Plus a lot more new techy addons asides. Games all downloaded freely from the internet, along with many brand new games still being released regularly to this day by enthusiasts. My C64 also has WiFi internet, I can browse bulletin boards hosted by other commie users and download straight onto the SD Card. The retro gaming scene today is massive. I've been to a few exhibitions in recent years meeting fellow geeks.
Since I've recently joined here after discovering I'm likely an Aspie, I'm only now beginning to understand my geekiness likely stems from this. An emotional immaturity which made me feel safe when I was young, and still to this day.
Anyway, here are my two...
How organized or respectful of the law are you while driving? I ask because well I tend to be a little strict with laws and driving etiquette. Even when I live in a country full of terrible drivers and roads I try to follow order, my cousins american husband even said he doesn't like to drive here because all drivers are crazy.
Well, I got my license at 19yo and I'm now 26, never had a parking ticket nor an accident (touch wood) I try to respect speed limits and yellow lines, I have even spent 20min looking for a parking spot in order to avoid parking in fron of a yellow line. When I finally get a free spot I like to park the most centered way possible.
So what about you?
My old psychiatrist says I have Asperger's, my new psychiatrist says I have Asperger's, my social worker says I have Asperger's, my mum says I have Asperger's. I've spent nearly every day for the last year and a half reading about it since they told me hearing people's experiences, trying to connect to people with it, and even going as far as listing down examples of how I think it affects me. And I still can't come to terms with it. Sometimes I think I'm just lazy because I have no motivation in life. What do I need to do?
I've asked my social worker if I could have some sort of report written on paper on why they think I have it because I don't know what I'm putting out there to make them think that. He said they'll talk about it at our next appointment.
Can anybody relate to this? Or am I alone with this like always?
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