Buzzerfly
Well-Known Member
My mother was abusive to me and always told others I was terrible to hide how horrible she is. That being said, it can be really upsetting to once be close with someone, and then have that change. I can't gather from anything that you wrote any information about your sons experience. Therefore, I'm surprised so many people, particularly those on the spectrum, have responded to you in such a way that validates your story. Not that anyone should do the opposite...
The part about you talking to your son until your voice went out literally makes me shudder. My mother used to do that in a manipulative tone while she held her leg over me so I couldn't leave. I'm not saying you are like my mother, only that other people on here are sensitive, like me, to accusatory descriptions of persons we don't know. For example, just saying your son is disrespectful is your story of him, with NO info about how he is/acts. If you really wanted help/advice on this thread, why wouldn't you say more about what your son does? It seems you just want validation for what you already think.
Autistic people can be really sensitive and don't always know why they act the way they do. Maybe he's just opted to shut down on your family, because he doesn't know why he feels upset at you. But your just telling all of us what a bad person he is. For example, again, I'm asked to think he's a jerk for attending an Ivy League school. Aren't you sending him there?
The part about you talking to your son until your voice went out literally makes me shudder. My mother used to do that in a manipulative tone while she held her leg over me so I couldn't leave. I'm not saying you are like my mother, only that other people on here are sensitive, like me, to accusatory descriptions of persons we don't know. For example, just saying your son is disrespectful is your story of him, with NO info about how he is/acts. If you really wanted help/advice on this thread, why wouldn't you say more about what your son does? It seems you just want validation for what you already think.
Autistic people can be really sensitive and don't always know why they act the way they do. Maybe he's just opted to shut down on your family, because he doesn't know why he feels upset at you. But your just telling all of us what a bad person he is. For example, again, I'm asked to think he's a jerk for attending an Ivy League school. Aren't you sending him there?