If you believe you could be happier, what is it that you currently do not posses that think would make you happier? What do you believe would be the best method to go about attaining it? Has there ever been anything in the past that seemed impossible to achieve that you successfully achieved?
I am curious to know what issues others with ASD have, and how they have overcome them if possible.
Personally I dislike my job. It is too stressful and and not very enjoyable. I will soon start looking for another job that I may like more (still in software development). Until I do find another job I will keep my current one. I have gained good experience and made good money here. Such things come before temporary (or even prolonged) distress.
Another thing that stands between me and happiness is forming good relationships with others (especially romantically). My facial expressions are often blank or too serious. People often think I have something against them which makes life harder. Even when people like me I feel that if the discussion goes on for too long they will come to believe I dislike them and they will be offended, which in turn increases my anxiety. I don't believe this can be prevented. I can minimize the damage by eventually telling them about my disorder and that it is not personal. For very close relationships I think I would prefer people with similar disorders so that I could be myself with them. Summoning the balls to go through with such things will likely not be easy.
As for something that I thought was very difficult but I achieved, that would have to be a relatively high paying, stable job. I initially finished my degree in something else but studied comp sci afterwards. I was determined and learned well. I went to comp sci because it was in demand at the time (3 years ago completed my courses). I got a job shortly after and I have been doing quite well through hard work and talent, despite management voicing concern over my occasional defiance and anger. The smart choice I eventually made was to choose a field in demand. We are at a disadvantage generally, so lowering the amount of completion is always a good idea. Once a job is secured hard work and determination are required to keep it and be successful.
I am curious to know what issues others with ASD have, and how they have overcome them if possible.
Personally I dislike my job. It is too stressful and and not very enjoyable. I will soon start looking for another job that I may like more (still in software development). Until I do find another job I will keep my current one. I have gained good experience and made good money here. Such things come before temporary (or even prolonged) distress.
Another thing that stands between me and happiness is forming good relationships with others (especially romantically). My facial expressions are often blank or too serious. People often think I have something against them which makes life harder. Even when people like me I feel that if the discussion goes on for too long they will come to believe I dislike them and they will be offended, which in turn increases my anxiety. I don't believe this can be prevented. I can minimize the damage by eventually telling them about my disorder and that it is not personal. For very close relationships I think I would prefer people with similar disorders so that I could be myself with them. Summoning the balls to go through with such things will likely not be easy.
As for something that I thought was very difficult but I achieved, that would have to be a relatively high paying, stable job. I initially finished my degree in something else but studied comp sci afterwards. I was determined and learned well. I went to comp sci because it was in demand at the time (3 years ago completed my courses). I got a job shortly after and I have been doing quite well through hard work and talent, despite management voicing concern over my occasional defiance and anger. The smart choice I eventually made was to choose a field in demand. We are at a disadvantage generally, so lowering the amount of completion is always a good idea. Once a job is secured hard work and determination are required to keep it and be successful.
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