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I can see why she’s ignoring you now instead of confronting you - you are relentless in your negative judgement of her - and she doesn’t have the energy to be able to cope with you. I might be rude - but I’d probably ignore you too if I thought you weren’t going to get my point of view. She just wants you to go about your business and forget she ever existed.I think you’re right there was something about me that put her off a Friendship. But I think her behavior is immature.
She’s dragging this out by ignoring me: a stranger. It’s rude, in my opinion.
.... I literally don’t speak to her anymore.
She is the one who initiated this acquaintanceship with me.
Wtf. I had a person come up to me, initiate contact, tell me to hang out anytime. Then, randomly one day go cold.
It’s not difficult to see why I would be confused and want to know what happened.
I am offended at an earlier posters assertations that this change in attitude was justified.
With all due respect to you, I think the reason some are suggesting it is clear why she is treating you this way is that perhaps by continually repeating what has happened, you seem rather fixated on the fact she encouraged you, then ignored you. Behavior which understandably upsets you, but which is actually quite common, not really at all unusual, and which nobody here can help you with because we can't change her behavior, or read her mind and explain it.
Hence I asked what you are hoping to achieve by posting this here.
Which is not to suggest you shouldn't post, but that if all you are able to do is repeat what has happened, it isn't apparently moving you on from the incident.
'What happened' is not something any of us can really know, and therefore tell you. Some have suggested possible reasons, but you seem unwilling to accept these suggestions, so I wonder is there a particular explanation you are hoping for, or expecting, because all I see is a girl who for whatever reason initiated contact with you, and then decided to ignore you.
In my experience there are two possible and common reasons for this behaviour, the first is that her circumstances may have changed, such that she has no interest in pursuing what she started, and the second is that once contact was initiated, she discovered something about you that she didn't like, and decided to 'opt out'.
Of course there's a third, and that is that perhaps she's just very changeable, moody and unpredictable. We don't have any knowledge of her or her circumstance to make that assessment.
In the future, if you contacted someone, I wouldn't do it more than twice in a row in two days if you don't know them well. If you aren't sure based on context, leave at least a 3 day gap between your first time communicating and the next. There are no "rules" per se, but people in our group generally can do better with "guidelines." If after two or three times, they don't respond, you can leave the door open for them to communicate. However, have them meet you at YOUR convenience so that he/she can prove his/her seriousness to you in actually talking/meeting.