When talking with an NT, do they think you are blaming them all the time?
For example, if I'm having a conversation, and the person I'm talking to starts talking quieter, then I can say "I can't hear you" or "You should speak louder" or "Could you please speak louder".
Now if you were really sensitive, the first 2 sayings could be taken the wrong way. Especially if the tone of voice used is malicious.
The problem is that if I say "You should speak louder" in a normal tone of voice, then some people tend to take it very hard. Like I'm blaming them. Kind of like saying "You're speaking too softly, so it's your fault that I can't hear you! You should speak louder!".
Am I losing it, or are they overreacting?
I mean, in this situation I've heard everything from "you think you're better than me" to "you're talking down to me", and all I am thinking is "I can't hear this person. I wish they could speak louder so I can understand what they're saying."
For example, if I'm having a conversation, and the person I'm talking to starts talking quieter, then I can say "I can't hear you" or "You should speak louder" or "Could you please speak louder".
Now if you were really sensitive, the first 2 sayings could be taken the wrong way. Especially if the tone of voice used is malicious.
The problem is that if I say "You should speak louder" in a normal tone of voice, then some people tend to take it very hard. Like I'm blaming them. Kind of like saying "You're speaking too softly, so it's your fault that I can't hear you! You should speak louder!".
Am I losing it, or are they overreacting?
I mean, in this situation I've heard everything from "you think you're better than me" to "you're talking down to me", and all I am thinking is "I can't hear this person. I wish they could speak louder so I can understand what they're saying."