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I'm actually very open about it; I want people to know that there's a reason that I act the way I do, and that I'm not just trying to act "weird." So I'll often tell people I'm going to be around a lot (e.g. schoolmates) shortly after I meet them and talk to them a bit.
I'm actually very open about it; I want people to know that there's a reason that I act the way I do, and that I'm not just trying to act "weird." So I'll often tell people I'm going to be around a lot (e.g. schoolmates) shortly after I meet them and talk to them a bit.
Yep, I'm that way as well. I just don't see the point of concealing it - they're going to see the traits anyway, so why not make it clearer for them? Just about everyone in my year level knows, and me casually mentioning it makes things much more comfortable. I think it's beneficial in every respect because the mature people develop an understanding and an acceptance of it, and the others are too scared to be anything but angelic towards me because I'm "diseased". It actually staves off bullying.
I have had the relationship experiences you are talking about, as well as the reactions when I first told family and friends about my suspicions of Asperger Syndrome. It is hard for others who have known you for some time to accept it, because it means they must see you in a different light. Denial of the condition is common, I have found. Every single family member who I told about it insisted that I was mistaken and, even after diagnosis, continue to point out the ways in which it must not be true (to their minds). It makes it hard for you, yes, but it is a bit hard for them as well. While we deal with all of this on a daily basis from our own perspective, it impacts other people who care about us, too.
Right away. They are going to notice that there is something strange about me, and it's better if they know what it is.
King_oni So with that... I understand the "honest" factor, but also calculate in the "why is it relevant?" had some thoughts on as to why i feel the need to tell certain people-some its easier to tell-you try and educate them and hope they will go away with a new found knowledge and then come back to you...hmm hope eternal-Family,for me has been a trickier one- I wanted them to realise that I was not being deliberately obstructive,opinionated,arrogant,selfish,self centered, or attention seeking(these are just a few of the comments family members have made about me)-the problem with others is that they immediately think you are retarded-their ignorance entirely- but they make excuses not to contact again-so telling someone always has consequences-sometimes the need to justify ones existence and character is either due to insecurity or a need to fight ones corner.
I have a female friend who clearly finds me very very odd. Well, I suspect she does but so do most of my friends. Anyway, a few days ago I took a deep breath and told her, "I'm sure I have aspergers syndrome." Then I explained the basics of it and asked her what she thought. She said the thing that struck her as most bizarre (and very irritating) was the way I dominate a conversation. Also I apparently walk around as I'm talking to her, sometimes looking in another direction but still chatting. Well, I don't do that as much now as I started to try and modify it.
One thing they all find odd is my best friend is a German Shepherd dog. I adore dogs and am always studying while he's at my side playing with his ball. They also find it weird I talk to him as if a person but so did lieutenant Columbo.