Hello! As someone who has been dating a partner with Aspergers for over a year, I still have so many questions I don’t know how to begin to answer and so many parts of him I don’t quite understand. But I want to - more than anything. So I hope it’s okay I came here for advice.
When my partner and I first met, we were incredibly sexual and our physical intimacy and acts essentially bonded the two of us together. He told me he hadn’t had sex for a long time even though he only recently broke up with his girlfriend before me. He said the sex just naturally faded from the relationship.
Recently, however, his interest in sex with me has also really faded. We’ve had a lot more tension than the first time we met, a lot more discomfort with our own bodies around each other, and I’ve had to tell him how I didn’t like to be touched in certain ways. I’m wondering if any or all of this has contributed to this feeling and if there is a healthy way to maybe inspire more sex in our relationship without pressuring him or making him feel bad he doesn’t desire it as much.
Has anyone here had or has a partner that has had a really sharp decrease in sexual desire? Should I set my expectations to expect little to no sex in our relationship going forward, or is there a way to help him feel more comfortable and less repulsed by the act itself?
When my partner and I first met, we were incredibly sexual and our physical intimacy and acts essentially bonded the two of us together. He told me he hadn’t had sex for a long time even though he only recently broke up with his girlfriend before me. He said the sex just naturally faded from the relationship.
Recently, however, his interest in sex with me has also really faded. We’ve had a lot more tension than the first time we met, a lot more discomfort with our own bodies around each other, and I’ve had to tell him how I didn’t like to be touched in certain ways. I’m wondering if any or all of this has contributed to this feeling and if there is a healthy way to maybe inspire more sex in our relationship without pressuring him or making him feel bad he doesn’t desire it as much.
Has anyone here had or has a partner that has had a really sharp decrease in sexual desire? Should I set my expectations to expect little to no sex in our relationship going forward, or is there a way to help him feel more comfortable and less repulsed by the act itself?