Thank you, I was trying to find the words to follow on from what I said. You had them.
I have never played the cared out of pity. MY card is who I am, who you have to deal with, if you must, and what you should expect in response. My card is not about my weaknesses, it's about my strengths. The job I have now I solely owe to being an aspie, my boss hired me because he knew what Aspergers was, and, in his eyes, he was getting a great bargain. I didn't tell him I might have a meltdown someday, or that I might stim, but I did tell him that he would get a hardworking and dedicated employee with a 100% focus. He has never regretted his choice.
If you use the card to sell your weakness then you are dead in the water.
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Judge I often look to see which side of the pond the post is from, it seems there is far more bigotry within the workplace, and community, than there is over here.
My village knows me well, we also have a community of auties in several homes that regularly meet up on the green. Our local policeman is transexual (F->M) and everyone has given up on working out the ethnic mix of the area. The greatest thing is that we look out for each other, irrespective of race, religion or abilities. Yes, it can go wrong and when it does we close ranks.
Maybe I have just been lucky, or maybe I made my own luck. Who knows
Edit - Just thinking. In my area we have Aspire, an organisation to help aspies, and Sanctuary, a large private housing group that offers homes to auties/aspies who would be homeless. They are homeshare schemes, but it is better than the streets.
Not such a bad place to live really.