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Sorry - Judge what do you mean "which side of the pond"?To me, ultimately playing that "card" is more like throwing dice. Frankly I can think of better scenarios for risk versus reward. That's it's something to be done sparingly, and with great thought.
But then also it's worth noting I think this is the sort of issue that has different dynamics attached to it, depending upon "which side of the pond" it involves.
I don't think I've ever used it, don't really know what situation would warrant it, and I don't think it would have the desired effect if I did.
Does anyone get loud and proud?
Hmm, I haven't relieved my card in the mail yet. But I suppose I have played the Mental Breakdown card quite a bit lately.
Looking at it in relation to family, and perhaps friends... the main thing about me, my dad is aware of, is that I obviously don't have a job because of diagnosis.
With friends I'm a bit the same... I can go to a club with them and if I want to leave I'll tell them I want to leave, if they decide to leave with me, or stay there is totally their choice, but I never brought up the entire "my aspiesenses are flaring up I must leave now"...
It seems most people are polite enough not to pry, and accept that I don't have much to say, although I have found out that some people have thought I didn't like them or that I was stuck up. I told one person, a running partner, who thought that I didn't like him that I have Aspergers, he was cool with that, but didn't really understand. He did say he'd need to read up on it, so good for him.
I only play that card when I absolutely must and it is a card reserved for dealing with state and federal governments where the law on discrimination is quite clear. I never play the card in the private sector because it is met with suspicion and marginalization.
I play it out of desperation, usually in work place situations. The problem is, you're playing the card thinking you're playing Monopoly when the majority thinks you're playing Sorry. Like the psychic paper of Doctor Who, there's no guarantee that someone will react the way you want them to and there's an even greater chance of people seeing, or thinking they can see, right through your intentions.
Sorry - Judge what do you mean "which side of the pond"?
As you know Slithytoves , I have no problem producing my aspiecard if it is to my benefit.
I've spent years around my friends who've played their various cards so it was nice to get one of my own, and I'm maxing it out
The one thing I learnt from my gay friends is you won't get the rights you want unless you make it loud and clear.
I don't think I've ever used it, don't really know what situation would warrant it, and I don't think it would have the desired effect if I did. But thanks, Harrison, from your comment. It occurs to me that I probably leave more than a few rights on the table, I've lived so long with a less-than self image.
Does anyone get loud and proud?
Harrison, I am the loud and proud one. I will wear the scarlet A like a badge. I demand to be accepted or rejected to my face. I brook no equivocation.
The world of artifice and pretense has little regard for me and being an eccentric orbiter is perfect for me. I remain four square, frank and hopefully inept with guile and deceit.
Attempting to be a humane being is a serious endeavor.
To me, ultimately playing that "card" is more like throwing dice. Frankly I can think of better scenarios for risk versus reward. That's it's something to be done sparingly, and with great thought.
But then also it's worth noting I think this is the sort of issue that has different dynamics attached to it, depending upon "which side of the pond" it involves.
Well said, I find that very inspiring Epicurean Pariah. For a very long time i viewed my, as you say " four square, frank and hopefully inept with guile and deceit". as a shortcoming and weakness that left me somewhat vulnerable in a world which seems to prey upon those without guile.
I now view it as a strength, and what a strength it is!
I don't want to have acommodations, I want to smoothly manage things in my world on my own. Hah!
When stressed, I may lose speech. This is how I then try to communicate my needs:
Being misunderstood (or shouted at) at that point sometimes causes
Which can then result in
So, now I need to realize that
Play the aspie card? No. I do however need to get real with myself regarding situational sensory overwhelm, learn to read my body's signals better, and with guidance, devise some good scripts to advocate for myself effectively.
My success is my responsibility!
I knew that part. I was wondering whether having a disability is more socially acceptable over there, whether in GB &/or Europe, than here in the states?I definitely use it most when dealing with agencies, too. Occasionally private services, though. I ....
You may already have figured it out from wanderer03's post about Europe, but "the pond" is a British colloquialism for the Atlantic.
Judge, perhaps the pond divides the more civilized world from Vespucciland as I infer.
I was wondering whether having a disability is more socially acceptable over there, whether in GB &/or Europe, than here in the states?