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Hey all, this is my first post. My ex is an aspie, unfortunately I did not learn this till after our second split. The first split he stop talking to me because I pushed for an answer as to what we were. After 3 ignored texts over 6 months, we started talking again.
Things were going well we were casual but it was obvious we cared about one another. I had a scary health issue and was upset that he wanted to talk about work and didn't appear to care about my health. I was angry and said some mean things then told him he never has to call me back. A few weeks later my health worsened and my friend texted him to let him know (without my permission). He subsequently changed his number.
I get that he's upset and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I would have reacted differently if I knew he was an aspie (a mutual aquaintence informed me after the altercation). There is no way of predicting the future and I don't want a romantic relationship anymore because it's not healthy, but I miss my friend. Aside from this he was always very supportive, but I did have to walk on eggshells with him. The impression I've gotten is that he doesn't have too many real friends if any and im his first gf (were both in our mid 30s. I've heard so many mutual aquaintences (supposed friends) making fun of him. I hate myself for hurting him. I guess there is no real question, but it is difficult to move on from this. I've been educating myself on asperger since this happened in case we communicate again and because I want to understand him. Any input, advise or observations are appreciated.
Things were going well we were casual but it was obvious we cared about one another. I had a scary health issue and was upset that he wanted to talk about work and didn't appear to care about my health. I was angry and said some mean things then told him he never has to call me back. A few weeks later my health worsened and my friend texted him to let him know (without my permission). He subsequently changed his number.
I get that he's upset and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I would have reacted differently if I knew he was an aspie (a mutual aquaintence informed me after the altercation). There is no way of predicting the future and I don't want a romantic relationship anymore because it's not healthy, but I miss my friend. Aside from this he was always very supportive, but I did have to walk on eggshells with him. The impression I've gotten is that he doesn't have too many real friends if any and im his first gf (were both in our mid 30s. I've heard so many mutual aquaintences (supposed friends) making fun of him. I hate myself for hurting him. I guess there is no real question, but it is difficult to move on from this. I've been educating myself on asperger since this happened in case we communicate again and because I want to understand him. Any input, advise or observations are appreciated.