Yeah the thing here is that there seem to be people hurt because they are really demonstrating pretty typical signs of AS, honestly, though very different ones. They seem to be sharing difficulty in seeing other perspective so it seems like each is feeling hurt or dissappointed or some other negative feeling.
I'm not going to try to interpret who is specifically saying what because obviously I'm not those people.
What I do think i see here is a lot of missteps in communication and perhaps assumption because of anxiety and fear brought on by previous situations.
Example: There is a thread on the board talking about adults with aspergers who like sitting on the floor. The impression could be that there is a suggestion that floor sitting is an asperger's thing and only people with asperger's sit on the floor or you have to sit on the floor to have asperger's.
Buuuut, maybe the person posting the thread was saying that they hav asperger's and like sitting on the floor and were trying to see if there was anyone similar. If someone else's ass hurts from sitting on the floor it doesn't exclude them from participating in the thread [and actually my tailbone was busted a long time ago so I have trouble sitting as much and kind of like laying, kind of melting]. It's also not a direct criticism of people who can't sit on the floor or who like laying on the floor or standing or who necessitate the use of wheelchairs.
Wording can get complicated, as repeatedly demonstrated in this thread. If I admitted to half the things that irritate the piss out of me but didn't actually act upon, I would be really just talking about how judgemental a person I am in my own mind.
Cause I am. Extremely judgmental
in my own mind- but we take those things and lay them out and see if they are valid or not. We examine them and I feel like there needs to be room to talk about our thoughts but it's different than how we actually treat people. Sometimes in discussing them wires get crossed.
To be clear?
I don't think anyone is "in the wrong" here, so don't please dont assign that to me- just as like, pre-emptive "no seriously everyone is FINE!"
i really think people got hurt here because there has been massive miscommunication from what I've read- thus far, and it's unfourtunate because I've seen other posts. I think it would be hard for me to try to interpret specific posts from parties other than myself though because that might just confuse the situation.
ANYWAY- going to stop shoving my nose in. I hope people can kind of maybe step away for a bit and revisit the topic.
<3
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ha. and yeah I edited this like five times already- I SWEAR not to make a point, just because it's almost 4 in the morning.