Is this Aspie behavior?

[Lena_C]

I think it depends...because some of us ASD have Dyslexia, so it's hard to say correct others' grammar mistake is an aspie behavior.
Since english is not my mother language, I usually make grammar mistake or phrase misuse.
I know I'm not perfect and willing to improve.
But most of my friends who can speak fluent english only complain my mistake and never point-out what's wrong.
I'm confused...
Though I'm standing between INTJ and INTP, I think being judgmental is good, but we need to know how to apply it in a right way
Let me be an example, if you find out there's something wrong in my words, please let me know where is the problem and teach me how to correct.
It doesn't help if you decide to keep it in your mind
I want to learn, I want to be perfect too...

 

[Aspieistj]

Oh dear! I have to apologize to all for my recent defense of my choice to continue to refer to myself as someone with AS. Didn't anyone notice my glaring error--"Asies" when I thought I typed AsPies! My spellchecker always faults the word Aspie so I ignored the alert. Too funny and nobody corrected me!!!!! I feel like such an Assie!

 

[Lena_C]

Oh dear! I have to apologize to all for my recent defense of my choice to continue to refer to myself as someone with AS. Didn't anyone notice my glaring error--"Asies" when I thought I typed AsPies! My spellchecker always faults the word Aspie so I ignored the alert. Too funny and nobody corrected me!!!!! I feel like such an Assie!

sorry my bad...
I noticed it but didn't correct it for you

 

[Aspieistj]

I think it depends...because some of us ASD have Dyslexia, so it's hard to say correct others' grammar mistake is an aspie behavior.
Since english is not my mother language, I usually make grammar mistake or phrase misuse.
I know I'm not perfect and willing to improve.
But most of my friends who can speak fluent english only complain my mistake and never point-out what's wrong.
I'm confused...
Though I'm standing between INTJ and INTP, I think being judgmental is good, but we need to know how to apply it in a right way
Let me be an example, if you find out there's something wrong in my words, please let me know where is the problem and teach me how to correct.
It doesn't help if you decide to keep it in your mind
I want to learn, I want to be perfect too...

I can't fault anyone who is speaking English when it isn't his or her first language. As for welcoming correction, if you asked me to do so I would definitely try to help you when we were alone.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

Oh dear! I have to apologize to all for my recent defense of my choice to continue to refer to myself as someone with AS. Didn't anyone notice my glaring error--"Asies" when I thought I typed AsPies! My spellchecker always faults the word Aspie so I ignored the alert. Too funny and nobody corrected me!!!!! I feel like such an Assie!

Yes, I noticed. However, I'm not one to point out such an error as you already know how I feel about people who do that. (I knew what you meant to say, and if I didn't I would have just asked you for clarification.)

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I want to learn, I want to be perfect too.

No one is perfect, and to expect that from yourself and others is to set everyone up for failure. Trying to be perfect can be exhausting.

 

[Aspieistj]

SignOfLAzarus, you have explained how I feel and react perfectly! "See a rule being broken, it's frustrating and uncomfortable-
Must. Fix. Broken. Rule... Universe. Not. In. Order." I realize I am a hopeless, ASIE, Aspie. I am sorry my posts have annoyed some on this forum but I do expect you to understand my AS tics, problems and compulsions. I think there may be something to allowing myself to be cured if a cure becomes available. However, I doubt I could ever tolerate playing a game in which some players refused to follow the rules. Maybe instead of meeting Asperger I would enjoy talking to E. Hoyle (1672-1769).

 

[Aspieistj]

No one is perfect, and to expect that from yourself and others is to set everyone up for failure. Trying to be perfect can be exhausting.

I think part of my expression of AS is a terrible need to be perfect. I am almost always unhappy because I can't change this compulsion. It is very likely the reason why I hate participating in sports.

 

[Aspergirl4hire]

I'm embarrassed because I often mistype homophones: their and they're, for instance, and I've known the difference all my life. It's just this slip of the gear that started happening last year. I'm aging. I didn't know this would be part of that, for me. Gets even worse if I attempt to post from smartphone.

I'm afraid of not being perfect: perfect is loved, or at least not objectionable. Yes, I know that's screwed up.
(Nervously checks lines to find error, can't find error, knows it'll be obvious as soon as I hit POST REPLY.)

 

[Spiller]

I fully anticipate that I'll feel exactly the same way, but experience has taught me that, given that I want to socialise in the first place, either leaving or not turning up at all, changes nothing. Only finding a way to handle with the anxiety and deal with the situation can offer an alternate outcome.
When I meet up with my Mental Health or Autism groups I keep in mind that they all find the occasion as difficult as I do. When I meet with any of the few friends I have (I see any of the five about once a month), while I worry that I won't be able to hold up a conversation - in fact this has always been my biggest concern - I try to adopt a mental state of acceptance that all will go as it should.. and hope for the best.
I refuse to let my condition dictate how I live my life!

 

[On the Inside]

Not sure if it is an Aspie thing, though it seems common, at least with this group. I am diagnosed, yet don't share this propensity.

While I consider myself well educated, I was, for various reasons, a poor student. One area in which I struggle to this day is with grammar, thus I have no beef with anyone who has trouble with proper grammar. While I do like rules, for some reason the rules of grammar escape me. I write naturally and if I make errors in grammar and sentence structure, well, I can't help it. Believe me, I've tried. How I write is very different from how I speak. Speaking is difficult for me, I stammer and hesitate, use the wrong words, sentence structure gets mixed up. Anxiety gets the best of me in most social situations.

Pronunciation and spelling are another thing. I have always read widely, and through books have collected a larger than average vocabulary. When I've come across a word unfamiliar to me, I try to learn the definition and proper pronunciation. I do correct people's pronunciation, if it's not a result of regional dialect, but only to help them. I have no need to feel "correct". I was a school champion at spelling bee, and notice misspelled words, but let them slide.

 

[brendak]

YES! I am very much like this. I am a blogger. And I shudder when I see other bloggers spell dining room dinning room. And in their post title! I want to correct them, for I don't want them to look silly. But realize that my correcting others just seems to get me into trouble.

 

[Suzanna]

I have an "obsession" with accents. When a word is obviously mispronounced or used out of context, it bothers me. But there are some words that are pronounced differently due to regional accents and dialect, so I am ok with that. I also hate when people say ideal instead of idea. If it is written, I will correct grammar, spelling, syntax, etc. I never say it to the person though because I learned early on that people get upset when you do that.

 

[Aspieistj]

I have an "obsession" with accents. When a word is obviously mispronounced or used out of context, it bothers me. But there are some words that are pronounced differently due to regional accents and dialect, so I am ok with that. I also hate when people say ideal instead of idea. If it is written, I will correct grammar, spelling, syntax, etc. I never say it to the person though because I learned early on that people get upset when you do that.

For the most part, I don't correct other people because I know they will become angry. However, I am totally unable to grasp the fact that anyone wouldn't be uncomfortable if they were aware of an error in their spoken or written English if it is their native language. Things are either right or wrong and why would anyone be satisfied to be wrong? Correct English is fairly easy to prove. If I were discussing religion or politics I wouldn't feel this way. Just don't tell me 2 plus 2 equals 5, we are going south when the direction is really north, that it is Tuesday when it is Wednesday (please don't interject that other time zones exist when we are in THIS time zone). As I have mentioned before, now that I am retired and live alone I choose to live as a hermit. If I avoid contact, I avoid conflict. Most of the time I can force myself to refrain from correcting someone, but I don't do well with my nonverbal communication. It is much more comfortable for me to avoid contact with other people. I brought up this question here because I expected other Aspies to be fairly understanding. I don't criticize other posts for disclosing Aspie behavior. I do appreciate those of you who have been understanding of my non NT reactions and not criticized me for assumed rudeness.

 

[Suzanna]

For the most part, I don't correct other people because I know they will become angry. However, I am totally unable to grasp the fact that anyone wouldn't be uncomfortable if they were aware of an error in their spoken or written English if it is their native language. Things are either right or wrong and why would anyone be satisfied to be wrong?

As a personal thought, I don't think that a person is ok or satisfied with being wrong. I tend to think it is more about it being pointed out, becoming embarrassed by it, then becoming defensive about it.

I have problems with contact with others, but I work in a call center, so I have to deal with it. At least I don't work in the front office where I would have to also watch my expressions and body language in addition and have the option of the mute button. When I worked data entry from home, I was in heaven.

I didn't think you were being rude and I apologize if I sounded like I was rude or or accusing you of being so.

 

[On the Inside]

However, I am totally unable to grasp the fact that anyone wouldn't be uncomfortable if they were aware of an error in their spoken or written English if it is their native language. Things are either right or wrong and why would anyone be satisfied to be wrong?

I think a lot of people who make errors in writing and speech do so out of habit, or not having learned correct usage. Many of them don't care enough to correct themselves and bristle at being corrected. I grew up with and have been around a lot of coarse people, so I'm used to it. I'm just glad that I've put in the effort to better my communication, because I need all the help I can get to communicate clearly and effectively.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I think I need to clarify something here - the way I see it when someone corrects another's writing abilities. Take this forum for example, if I go out of my way to say something or give advice that I feel is very important and someone sees the need to correct my writing or choice of words, it makes me feel that what I was trying to convey to the person was completely overlooked and the only real important thing to them is proofreading my spelling errors. It's disrespectful. Does that make any sense? The person is also going to avoid you from then on afraid that they will be critiqued for every little thing they say. What's more important - the words themselves or the person's thoughts?

 

[AsheSkyler]

What's more important - the words themselves or the person's thoughts?

I guess it depends on the level of coherency. I've seen some really bad spelling and grammar to the point I have no clue what they're trying to say, even worse than some rage posts on various places of the internet.

 

[Grumpy Cat]

I guess it depends on the level of coherency. I've seen some really bad spelling and grammar to the point I have no clue what they're trying to say, even worse than some rage posts on various places of the internet.

Then the person should be asked what they meant. I don't see any problem saying to them that their writing was not understandable and could they clarify themselves. That would be enough HINT to them (most people anyway) that they probably need to start looking at their own work. It's all in the delivery, which some Aspies may not understand, on what makes it "ok" to correct someone's grammar or spelling errors.

 

[Christopher Nicholson]

In this post you wrote that you are very judgemental of people when it comes to grammar. You post on an asperger's site and the people here like myslef have learning disabilities.

I spent 2 years in a little cubicle because the teaches had no idea what to do with me.

When I first read your post it made me angry because it seems you judge the person based on grammar.

The idea of lots of people with asperger's having this issue scares me because now who can I relate to?
I think if you don't want to be criticized then I would not of started the post with how judgemental of people with poor grammar. Review of my posts will show my grammar stinks. How do you judge me?