JaredKFan
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Long story short, I made some mistakes with a friend of mine because I let my mask down around her. We had had occasional communication difficulties (she and I are both hard of hearing and I can have a hard time understanding her voice sometimes) and I have spatial awareness problems that can result in me invading personal space without being aware of it. Now she isn’t talking to me because of those communication differences and a personal space violation that I didn’t realize had until weeks after the fact. I got hauled in for a behavioral complaint despite the fact that it is obvious to me her complaints are about those things - things about being autistic I can’t necessarily control unless I’m told specifically what went wrong, which didn’t happen. I know she’s acting out of fear of the unknown because she has an autistic brother but we all know each of us shows our autism differently and I think she was expecting me to be more like her brother.
I feel terrible about what happened but there is a possibility of resolution to the point where she is willing to be friends again once she understands that my behavior was due to being autistic. The first school official I tried to work with was completely an asshole and refused to understand or believe I’m autistic despite my diagnosis being on file with the school. Their boss, however has been more understanding abd more willing to listen and reslve things between me and her but she’s going on vacation tomorrow until the 9th and I’m not sure I can wait that long. We all know one of the most common .things for us is other’s misunderstanding and misinterpreting our intentions and that’s what is happening here.
I suspect my friend is autistic themselves but undiagnosed and I am really having a hard time waiting until the school official returns from vacation to help me and her deal with the autistic misinterpretations - to me it just seems like the school is stalling on acting PRECISELY because I’m autistic and don’t know how to deal with our sense of justice and righting a wrong that occurred because of a misunderstanding. I’m so frustrated right now because the first official successfully stalled for a month before I was forced to file a complaint against them FOR STALLING.
I feel terrible about what happened but there is a possibility of resolution to the point where she is willing to be friends again once she understands that my behavior was due to being autistic. The first school official I tried to work with was completely an asshole and refused to understand or believe I’m autistic despite my diagnosis being on file with the school. Their boss, however has been more understanding abd more willing to listen and reslve things between me and her but she’s going on vacation tomorrow until the 9th and I’m not sure I can wait that long. We all know one of the most common .things for us is other’s misunderstanding and misinterpreting our intentions and that’s what is happening here.
I suspect my friend is autistic themselves but undiagnosed and I am really having a hard time waiting until the school official returns from vacation to help me and her deal with the autistic misinterpretations - to me it just seems like the school is stalling on acting PRECISELY because I’m autistic and don’t know how to deal with our sense of justice and righting a wrong that occurred because of a misunderstanding. I’m so frustrated right now because the first official successfully stalled for a month before I was forced to file a complaint against them FOR STALLING.