Hello.
I have one friend. One. She happens to be my ex-girlfriend. We have been broken up almost five years. Our friendship is in no way romantic/sexual - We are like family. She is my best friend.
The problem is, I feel as if I am a better friend to her than she is to me. She even admits to this. I have not seen her and have barely talked to her in two weeks now.
She is a severe Bi-polar and has recently come out of six months of depression. She tells me she has been more active lately, going out more with friends, etc. I am glad for her. I am so very happy she is healthier now and relieved of the deadly burden of depression, but...
I feel as if she is ignoring me, unintentional as it may be.
We live about one mile away from one another. In the past year I have visited her approximately 75+ times to check in on her when she was ill and also to spend some time with her. In the past year she has visited me at my apartment... twice. Twice. The math does not add up and I feel a bit used and then forgotten about.
She is a very brilliant and also funny/humorous person. She has a group of friends that are in their early 20's - She is 46 today, her birthday. I know she finds their sarcastic, nonsensical "humor" invigorating - I realize this is something I cannot offer her. I will be 44 this month and am not wrapped up in my iPhone and popular memes like her little, young friends. My pursuits are intellectual and not silly like these kid-friends she has acquired.
The point is, and it is difficult to explain the whole thing here, I feel abandoned in some sense. Although I know this is not wholly true, it is how I feel sometimes.
In the back of my head there is the thought: Perhaps I should end our friendship? But, that is so sad.
I really do not know what to do.
(Yes, she and I stoned with her friends, 2 months ago. I am not really reminiscing - I try not to do that. I am just at a loss as what to do overall. I am not the kind of person that "goes with flow" - I feel I must act, somehow. Note: This was the first and only time I smoked Marijuana in over ten years. I did not really enjoy it, actually.)
Thank you for reading and any/all advice is much appreciated regarding this situation.
-Matthew
I have one friend. One. She happens to be my ex-girlfriend. We have been broken up almost five years. Our friendship is in no way romantic/sexual - We are like family. She is my best friend.
The problem is, I feel as if I am a better friend to her than she is to me. She even admits to this. I have not seen her and have barely talked to her in two weeks now.
She is a severe Bi-polar and has recently come out of six months of depression. She tells me she has been more active lately, going out more with friends, etc. I am glad for her. I am so very happy she is healthier now and relieved of the deadly burden of depression, but...
I feel as if she is ignoring me, unintentional as it may be.
We live about one mile away from one another. In the past year I have visited her approximately 75+ times to check in on her when she was ill and also to spend some time with her. In the past year she has visited me at my apartment... twice. Twice. The math does not add up and I feel a bit used and then forgotten about.
She is a very brilliant and also funny/humorous person. She has a group of friends that are in their early 20's - She is 46 today, her birthday. I know she finds their sarcastic, nonsensical "humor" invigorating - I realize this is something I cannot offer her. I will be 44 this month and am not wrapped up in my iPhone and popular memes like her little, young friends. My pursuits are intellectual and not silly like these kid-friends she has acquired.
The point is, and it is difficult to explain the whole thing here, I feel abandoned in some sense. Although I know this is not wholly true, it is how I feel sometimes.
In the back of my head there is the thought: Perhaps I should end our friendship? But, that is so sad.
I really do not know what to do.
(Yes, she and I stoned with her friends, 2 months ago. I am not really reminiscing - I try not to do that. I am just at a loss as what to do overall. I am not the kind of person that "goes with flow" - I feel I must act, somehow. Note: This was the first and only time I smoked Marijuana in over ten years. I did not really enjoy it, actually.)
Thank you for reading and any/all advice is much appreciated regarding this situation.
-Matthew