I am curious if other people have trouble with something that I do and what they do to deal with it.
So the root of my problem is that I like to know things, whenever I do things I try to be as efficient as possible, I try to understand it and use this knowledge to my advantage. This particular trait of mine has gotten me into a lot of social trouble. The main subsets of this problem are correction, intimidation, and perception.
By correction I mean that I struggle with letting people be wrong. When someone does something wrong or if there is potentially a better way, I always want to help them. I have good intentions, but I find that people would rather do things wrong/inefficient rather than learning a better way. I am getting better at this, albeit slowly.
Next: Intimidation, I feel like when I have a lot of knowledge about something I might come off as intimidating. I have a 4.0 GPA and I'm in my second year of college, I have the reputation among my acquaintances(I hesitate to call them friends) as being the smart know it all. I feel like this makes it even harder for me to communicate with them because I do know all this stuff that can be applied to the situations, paired with the correction problem mentioned previously, this has caused some serious social issues.
Lastly is Perception, I worry about how people perceive me. As stated earlier I like to be knowledgeable, I have a rule that if I don't know something I won't say it. Because of this I tend to do research and learn all the material I can. The problem comes from when I try to "relate" with others, I join in a hobby or game that they like to play and I quickly become far better than them at the task. Then comes the problem where(in the case of a game) I win 90% of the time (which isn't fun for either side). Because of this I fear how I am perceived by my peer in this regard and I think that they start to leave me out of things.
As to this last one, something you might say is that I just should "go easy" or I shouldn't try as hard. For the going easy, I always am lenient, I hate being that rule stickler, but I cannot purposefully sabotage myself, it feels like lying and I can't do that. For the not trying as hard, it is tough but I have managed it on a few occasions and have had little success because I have a very logical and tactful mind which helps me improvise strategy and plan out solutions. Along with these problems I notice that my peers will often team up against me or target me because they think I am better than them at a specific task, and while this makes sense logically it makes me frustrated for some reason.
Anyways, I realize I kind of went off topic so I'll summarize my question earlier, what social problems have you gotten into because you are extremely knowledgeable about something and what do to fit in better.
Thanks in advance.
So the root of my problem is that I like to know things, whenever I do things I try to be as efficient as possible, I try to understand it and use this knowledge to my advantage. This particular trait of mine has gotten me into a lot of social trouble. The main subsets of this problem are correction, intimidation, and perception.
By correction I mean that I struggle with letting people be wrong. When someone does something wrong or if there is potentially a better way, I always want to help them. I have good intentions, but I find that people would rather do things wrong/inefficient rather than learning a better way. I am getting better at this, albeit slowly.
Next: Intimidation, I feel like when I have a lot of knowledge about something I might come off as intimidating. I have a 4.0 GPA and I'm in my second year of college, I have the reputation among my acquaintances(I hesitate to call them friends) as being the smart know it all. I feel like this makes it even harder for me to communicate with them because I do know all this stuff that can be applied to the situations, paired with the correction problem mentioned previously, this has caused some serious social issues.
Lastly is Perception, I worry about how people perceive me. As stated earlier I like to be knowledgeable, I have a rule that if I don't know something I won't say it. Because of this I tend to do research and learn all the material I can. The problem comes from when I try to "relate" with others, I join in a hobby or game that they like to play and I quickly become far better than them at the task. Then comes the problem where(in the case of a game) I win 90% of the time (which isn't fun for either side). Because of this I fear how I am perceived by my peer in this regard and I think that they start to leave me out of things.
As to this last one, something you might say is that I just should "go easy" or I shouldn't try as hard. For the going easy, I always am lenient, I hate being that rule stickler, but I cannot purposefully sabotage myself, it feels like lying and I can't do that. For the not trying as hard, it is tough but I have managed it on a few occasions and have had little success because I have a very logical and tactful mind which helps me improvise strategy and plan out solutions. Along with these problems I notice that my peers will often team up against me or target me because they think I am better than them at a specific task, and while this makes sense logically it makes me frustrated for some reason.
Anyways, I realize I kind of went off topic so I'll summarize my question earlier, what social problems have you gotten into because you are extremely knowledgeable about something and what do to fit in better.
Thanks in advance.