Auroradanileigh
Active Member
I've been off and on with a guy who has Asbergers undiagnosed for about a year. I am NT. It's been quite difficult to even date because while he obsessively messages me daily to tell me how amazing and beautiful I am and how badly he wants to be with me again, (we've been intimate in the past) he refuses to make plans with me and hides in his room all day marathoning tv shows.
He doesn't lie to me when I ask. There are no other women I'm competing with. I don't know what imcompeting with honestly. And while it hurts he always tells me the truth. The truth is that he wants to be with me but also does not and he's incredibly confused about what he wants. I wonder if it's a case of both asbergers and him not being that into me (but he has had this issue with the last girl - who I was good friends with - she was confused also and then after she left he obsessively stalked her social media for a good year and a half. He already stalks mine. He's been single since I've known him. But I know he wants to be with someone because he is quite lonely. He just has difficulty socializing and maintaining any romantic relationship.
I want to be his friend but also want to be with him. I don't know how to broach this with him at this point because I feel like nothing is changing and I keep getting hurt. I'm writing this because I'm about to walk away from him as a friend and love interest and just be with someone else.
I guess im wondering if this is even worth fighting for anymore? And do men with asbergers even give a toss if a woman they care for leaves them finally?
Is this a case of asbergers and he's not that into me? I don't understand that because he obsessively contacts me daily (have I become a routine?) and has told me what I mean to him and sends me explicit photos. What guy who wants to sleep with someone doesn't make plans?!? It's so confusing. And yes he definitely has asbergers.
If this has happened to anyone if like to hear how it worked out.
So confused and so tired
He doesn't lie to me when I ask. There are no other women I'm competing with. I don't know what imcompeting with honestly. And while it hurts he always tells me the truth. The truth is that he wants to be with me but also does not and he's incredibly confused about what he wants. I wonder if it's a case of both asbergers and him not being that into me (but he has had this issue with the last girl - who I was good friends with - she was confused also and then after she left he obsessively stalked her social media for a good year and a half. He already stalks mine. He's been single since I've known him. But I know he wants to be with someone because he is quite lonely. He just has difficulty socializing and maintaining any romantic relationship.
I want to be his friend but also want to be with him. I don't know how to broach this with him at this point because I feel like nothing is changing and I keep getting hurt. I'm writing this because I'm about to walk away from him as a friend and love interest and just be with someone else.
I guess im wondering if this is even worth fighting for anymore? And do men with asbergers even give a toss if a woman they care for leaves them finally?
Is this a case of asbergers and he's not that into me? I don't understand that because he obsessively contacts me daily (have I become a routine?) and has told me what I mean to him and sends me explicit photos. What guy who wants to sleep with someone doesn't make plans?!? It's so confusing. And yes he definitely has asbergers.
If this has happened to anyone if like to hear how it worked out.
So confused and so tired