Benjamin Dover
Member
Hello. I just signed up. Hope that I clicked the proper suggestion for diagnosis, as I don't want anyone to get upset with me over it. I guessed my best.
Earlier this year, I had joined some depression forums. The problem was that I kept getting kicked out. I try my best, but it's never good enough.
Anyway, I thought that depression was my only problem. I have been seeing a therapist on a regular basis. One of the issues I was discussing with him revolved around me getting scammed by someone on Facebook. Based on this issue, he wanted to test me, so he gave me a test [WAIS-IV?] and some other tests.
My intelligence is above average, so that's not an issue.
HOWEVER, he said that I had "Asperger's Tendencies." I'm receiving this diagnosis for the first time, at the age of 52 [I just turned 53].
My challenges, related to this, are frustrating.
One is about learning. I'm trying to learn new things, but I just can't make the right connections, so nothing sticks. So much for the "little geniuses" remark my therapist made.
On a social level, I tend to over-explain. I'm also blunt and to-the-point, with honesty that is almost crushing, depending on the situation. I know that this is why I get kicked out of forums, so I'll do my best to curb that.
What happens is I'll see a thread where someone has complaints about an issue. It may be an issue that I've experienced, and it got resolved when someone was very blunt with me. In turn, I'll be blunt and honest with them. I don't swear, and I don't think I'm being mean.
I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that honesty is not an admirable trait, and that it's preferred that I "read between the lines" for what others are saying, and that I should respond to the unspoken, unasked question that resides in that area.
An example of this is when my girlfriend puts on something and asks the dreaded "Do I look fat in this?" question. I will answer with a YES or NO, and she will then go change.
My therapist said that the question being asked is not the real question, and that she just wants to know if she looks nice. But when I told her about it, she geniunely wants to know if she looks fat in something, and she appreciates my honesty. This might be why we've been together for 20 years, but I digress.
I understand coloquialisms, such as when someone finds a statement to be incredible, they say, "Get outta here!" I don't take that as a command to leave the room. I get some of these things. Other things, maybe not so much, but I'm not sure.
Anyway, I'm struggling with:
1. How to learn things.
2. How to better understand others.
I'll do my best to avoid honesty, and yet be truthful. I already hate my own introduction.
Earlier this year, I had joined some depression forums. The problem was that I kept getting kicked out. I try my best, but it's never good enough.
Anyway, I thought that depression was my only problem. I have been seeing a therapist on a regular basis. One of the issues I was discussing with him revolved around me getting scammed by someone on Facebook. Based on this issue, he wanted to test me, so he gave me a test [WAIS-IV?] and some other tests.
My intelligence is above average, so that's not an issue.
HOWEVER, he said that I had "Asperger's Tendencies." I'm receiving this diagnosis for the first time, at the age of 52 [I just turned 53].
My challenges, related to this, are frustrating.
One is about learning. I'm trying to learn new things, but I just can't make the right connections, so nothing sticks. So much for the "little geniuses" remark my therapist made.
On a social level, I tend to over-explain. I'm also blunt and to-the-point, with honesty that is almost crushing, depending on the situation. I know that this is why I get kicked out of forums, so I'll do my best to curb that.
What happens is I'll see a thread where someone has complaints about an issue. It may be an issue that I've experienced, and it got resolved when someone was very blunt with me. In turn, I'll be blunt and honest with them. I don't swear, and I don't think I'm being mean.
I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that honesty is not an admirable trait, and that it's preferred that I "read between the lines" for what others are saying, and that I should respond to the unspoken, unasked question that resides in that area.
An example of this is when my girlfriend puts on something and asks the dreaded "Do I look fat in this?" question. I will answer with a YES or NO, and she will then go change.
My therapist said that the question being asked is not the real question, and that she just wants to know if she looks nice. But when I told her about it, she geniunely wants to know if she looks fat in something, and she appreciates my honesty. This might be why we've been together for 20 years, but I digress.
I understand coloquialisms, such as when someone finds a statement to be incredible, they say, "Get outta here!" I don't take that as a command to leave the room. I get some of these things. Other things, maybe not so much, but I'm not sure.
Anyway, I'm struggling with:
1. How to learn things.
2. How to better understand others.
I'll do my best to avoid honesty, and yet be truthful. I already hate my own introduction.
