Lostsoul30
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Im 30. married with small kids
I usually avoid most social interactions. Im not working at the moment because i have small kids at home. It's a torture having to meet new parents and make friends.
Before having kids i was on disability assistant for anxiety and depression.
I get really stressed out when my morning routine is not as that as i hoped for. I can't tell if that's because my 1 year old is scream-crying while I'm trying to make breakfast. It makes me overwhelmed because my plan would be to keep baby sleeping in the mornings so i can make breakfast for the older child and spend time with them one on one. But the baby's cry is so irritating i get emotionally broken down into tears sometimes... No i am not depressed... It just like hearing a noise constantly that it feels like your ears are bleeding... Anyways.. This scenario is why im looking to see what the hell is wrong with me.
More about me.. I hate parties... I dread my poor kid's parties usually just have the grandparents around... They're still little but once older i dont mind doing outdoor parties with just their friends because my inlaws and family overwhelm me having them all around all at once.
I am okay with strangers but i am not friendly and keep to myself... Reserved and shy most of my life.
I think too much... But i am not smart like some autistic people..i am not good at having long conversations unless its a topic that angers me or have much to say.
Growing up i didnt get along with my stepdad and i was literally scared to talk to him or be in the same room because i was scared of him saying something insulting i spent years living in same house and not talking to him, not sure is that selective mutism or did i have a good reason to not talk to him? He was verbally abusive so he shut me down... To this day.. I can throw a few words at him but not talk too long.. Definitely a lot better then years back though. When i lived with my family as a teen, i use to DREAD having relatives over... Waiting for them would make my heart race and id be all nervous and didnt know why.
Few years later i met my current husband and i had to drink a little alcohol to meet his parents! I wasn't drunk just a little buzzed.
We don't have much of a social life... I dont have many friends now i lost them all after highschool. I have 2 but rarely see them because im so busy with the kids.. My currently problems are my hubbys extended family.. I go through severe intense PAIN having to visit them.. They just think I'm a little shy thats why i dont go to their parties and large family gatherings. I went a few times when we first met and they all never bothered to speak in English. We just visit hubbys parents every few weeks and the rest of his family id have to drink a little to get through it. I hve social anxiety for sure but maybe it's something more... I have everything i ever wanted.. It's a shame this is preventing me from having a better life. Ill stress for weeks before having to gp visit hubbys relatives for example. Why do i hate going there? Zero self confidence and i know they dont like me theyve even showed it.. I dotn really want a connection with them. Im ok seeing them once a year. Just don't like their religion and how loud they are.. They're the type that will have 150 people over for their kids parties and go to parties themselves like several times a week... We're just different and i cant mix with those personalities because they make me nervous to be around them... So ya... Not sure exactly what's wrong with me.. Im too scared to a doc because if they diagnose me with something i will feel like they told me i have cancer and my life is over.. ALSO i wouldn't want to carry such a secret around because there's no way in hell id tell my family, hubbys middle eastern family.. Whom his sister divorced the first hubby because he had a mental health problem.. Ugh i can't stand them lol
I usually avoid most social interactions. Im not working at the moment because i have small kids at home. It's a torture having to meet new parents and make friends.
Before having kids i was on disability assistant for anxiety and depression.
I get really stressed out when my morning routine is not as that as i hoped for. I can't tell if that's because my 1 year old is scream-crying while I'm trying to make breakfast. It makes me overwhelmed because my plan would be to keep baby sleeping in the mornings so i can make breakfast for the older child and spend time with them one on one. But the baby's cry is so irritating i get emotionally broken down into tears sometimes... No i am not depressed... It just like hearing a noise constantly that it feels like your ears are bleeding... Anyways.. This scenario is why im looking to see what the hell is wrong with me.
More about me.. I hate parties... I dread my poor kid's parties usually just have the grandparents around... They're still little but once older i dont mind doing outdoor parties with just their friends because my inlaws and family overwhelm me having them all around all at once.
I am okay with strangers but i am not friendly and keep to myself... Reserved and shy most of my life.
I think too much... But i am not smart like some autistic people..i am not good at having long conversations unless its a topic that angers me or have much to say.
Growing up i didnt get along with my stepdad and i was literally scared to talk to him or be in the same room because i was scared of him saying something insulting i spent years living in same house and not talking to him, not sure is that selective mutism or did i have a good reason to not talk to him? He was verbally abusive so he shut me down... To this day.. I can throw a few words at him but not talk too long.. Definitely a lot better then years back though. When i lived with my family as a teen, i use to DREAD having relatives over... Waiting for them would make my heart race and id be all nervous and didnt know why.
Few years later i met my current husband and i had to drink a little alcohol to meet his parents! I wasn't drunk just a little buzzed.
We don't have much of a social life... I dont have many friends now i lost them all after highschool. I have 2 but rarely see them because im so busy with the kids.. My currently problems are my hubbys extended family.. I go through severe intense PAIN having to visit them.. They just think I'm a little shy thats why i dont go to their parties and large family gatherings. I went a few times when we first met and they all never bothered to speak in English. We just visit hubbys parents every few weeks and the rest of his family id have to drink a little to get through it. I hve social anxiety for sure but maybe it's something more... I have everything i ever wanted.. It's a shame this is preventing me from having a better life. Ill stress for weeks before having to gp visit hubbys relatives for example. Why do i hate going there? Zero self confidence and i know they dont like me theyve even showed it.. I dotn really want a connection with them. Im ok seeing them once a year. Just don't like their religion and how loud they are.. They're the type that will have 150 people over for their kids parties and go to parties themselves like several times a week... We're just different and i cant mix with those personalities because they make me nervous to be around them... So ya... Not sure exactly what's wrong with me.. Im too scared to a doc because if they diagnose me with something i will feel like they told me i have cancer and my life is over.. ALSO i wouldn't want to carry such a secret around because there's no way in hell id tell my family, hubbys middle eastern family.. Whom his sister divorced the first hubby because he had a mental health problem.. Ugh i can't stand them lol