The people I've seen just proved they had no clue about how I was functionning. I don't remember one time when I left and felt like "oh that was useful!". Never happened. I always left and felt like "how weird people are, let's analyze all this weirdness and the awkward comments and this weird thinking and those strange propositions".
therapy
/ˈθɛrəpi/
noun
noun: therapy; plural noun: therapies
treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder.
If you intend to relieve or heal anything, I believe you're just mistaking yourself. It won't work. Just my opinion. All you can do is guide, give explanations where the person struggles, and give more knowledge about how YOU function. But there's no healing or relieving anything as far as I'm concerned. I'm very suspicious about someone having no idea how I function nor why I do things the way I do them or about what I need and what's happening, and proposing me therapy. I doubt it can work althrough emotional support might help, but that's all I think. There is no therapy for people on the spectrum, as well as there's no therapy for people being gay or whatever. People with ASD aren't monkeys to try therapies on. They won't work. Emotional support can work, giving explanations on points the person struggles to get about other people's behaviours can work, but I don't believe in a therapy for ASD. It's not psychological. You can help with the comorbities and some precise points of struggle I guess, althrough you'll struggle yourself to understand what it's all about. But it's unlikely you can change anything about autism in a person's brain, that's just how it functions. Any therapist not understanding and accepting that can't, ever, be effective. There's no other program in my brain nor other way to process information. It's way more general than the points you just observe from the outside, and it has nothing to do with just behaviour and behaviour modification, nor with personality. You can find 2 people with ASD having very, different personalities and/or with different manifestions of it. They're all different individuals before all. The more I tried to talk to others and to therapists the more it was obvious they just were clueless about my functionning and where and why I was struggling. I was even proposed to listen to sounds that send me straight to meltdowns at a low level while breathing to make things better, and the person was extremely impatient to check how it was going as if I was a monkey to experiment a stupid therapy on. No, it won't work, my ears hear the same, and no, I'm not paying for that. That's how clueless people are, they just have no idea, honestly.
Also from the stupid advices and comments I have heard, I've been adviced to "accept the moment". I can assure that person that if I didn't accept the moment, I'd be dead. Simple as that. I'm still here, means I do accept the game. That doesn't take away the struggle to deal with the moment. It's insane to tell that to someone, how is it supposed to help, I'm clueless. But at least when I'm clueless, I have no issue admitting it. Something therapists don't seem to be doing.
Now, that's just my point of view and opinion from personal experience. Tons of problems to try to communicate with the therapist, and a therapist having no clue but believing he/she had an understanding (lol) and proposing stuffs that just can't work because it can't be changed. Believing they understand and know better. Talking to a wall is more pleasant and less expansive.