I just do not get neurotypical reasoning and left feeling utterly frustrated.
I am "accused" of putting emotion into explanations of things. So, if I am describing what someone said, I reinact how they said it and apparently, this is wrong!
I do not do ambigueous things. So when someone says something and it makes no sense to me, I am the one who gets the looks of incredulous. It has to be explained to me. I give an example.
My sister's daughter is 16, but has been in a care establishment since 14. Tons of ridiculous things have occured, to the extent that she is not trusted by my sister. My husband and I are going away next month, for two weeks, to tour around europe ( easy, since we live in France). My husband suggests it would be a wonderful opportunity for our niece and she likes the idea and is going to ask her social worker.
Forgetting the format, I ask permission off my sister, but I get a message to say that she does not feel comfortable with her daughter being so far away and reiterated it several times, that it has nothing to do with us. But in my logic, I am thinking: but she will be in our care; we would be meeting her at the ferry and dropping her back off, so surely, it has to do with not trusting us to take care of our niece?
I honestly thought it was strange and got my husband to read it and immediately he said: yes, it makes sense. How? I ask. He thinks I am being too sensitive, but it is more frustration that it is without logic! Eventually he said: well, think of it is this way. She could be being delicate with us, but really means she does not trust us or she is worried that her daughter will play up and cause us issues and even she could run away! I get that very much.
So, you see, I need an explanation, but why are NT's so unwilling to help?
In truth, I get scared to open my mouth, because I am sure I am going to get pounced on for saying the wrong thing!
I am "accused" of putting emotion into explanations of things. So, if I am describing what someone said, I reinact how they said it and apparently, this is wrong!
I do not do ambigueous things. So when someone says something and it makes no sense to me, I am the one who gets the looks of incredulous. It has to be explained to me. I give an example.
My sister's daughter is 16, but has been in a care establishment since 14. Tons of ridiculous things have occured, to the extent that she is not trusted by my sister. My husband and I are going away next month, for two weeks, to tour around europe ( easy, since we live in France). My husband suggests it would be a wonderful opportunity for our niece and she likes the idea and is going to ask her social worker.
Forgetting the format, I ask permission off my sister, but I get a message to say that she does not feel comfortable with her daughter being so far away and reiterated it several times, that it has nothing to do with us. But in my logic, I am thinking: but she will be in our care; we would be meeting her at the ferry and dropping her back off, so surely, it has to do with not trusting us to take care of our niece?
I honestly thought it was strange and got my husband to read it and immediately he said: yes, it makes sense. How? I ask. He thinks I am being too sensitive, but it is more frustration that it is without logic! Eventually he said: well, think of it is this way. She could be being delicate with us, but really means she does not trust us or she is worried that her daughter will play up and cause us issues and even she could run away! I get that very much.
So, you see, I need an explanation, but why are NT's so unwilling to help?
In truth, I get scared to open my mouth, because I am sure I am going to get pounced on for saying the wrong thing!