BlueConundrum
Active Member
I was severely bullied as a child and separately from that I grew up in an abusive household. I've had self-esteem issues for as long as I remember. I remember praying at age 4 that I would wake up a different person. I've always hated myself.
I am very sensitive to criticism as a result. I'm not sensitive to all criticism, but if someone points out something and I disagree, it's VERY upsetting. I suppose it's because my brain constantly recites all the ways that I'm terrible all day, every day, so it's unnerving when someone gives me a new "wrong" thing to think about. If they are nice or at least make a good point, then it's generally okay, but often people are just rude. On these occasions, I fall into a horrible pit of despair and take forever to recover.
Tonight someone was very rude to me in a way that was not constructive and uncalled for. I know I'm not imagining it because two other people witnessed this and were aghast and they both actually said something about it (I did NOT say anything, but I should have).
A few months ago, someone else implied that I was boring them while I was telling a (short!) story while socializing with a group. This person always wants to be the center of attention and they talk way too much, and I think they were annoyed that I had spent 30-60 seconds talking. She literally laughed at me and threw a paper airplane at my face and I was telling a serious story and not joking around. I worry a lot about boring people, so even though I knew she was rude, I cried about this for days and completely stopped talking to anyone in that social group.
So, back to tonight -- I don't want to get into it, but someone did something that made me feel similar. I assume that something about me reads as subhuman because so many people think it's okay to be disrespectful to me for no discernible reason. I have become very reclusive over the past couple of years and I have ditched all of my friends. I made a conscious decision to interact with people more. This is my second time out and now I don't want to bother anymore.
I was diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder six years ago, and that disorder is part of my problem.
Do other people experience these frequent bouts of rudeness? How do you react (both literally and emotionally)?
I am very sensitive to criticism as a result. I'm not sensitive to all criticism, but if someone points out something and I disagree, it's VERY upsetting. I suppose it's because my brain constantly recites all the ways that I'm terrible all day, every day, so it's unnerving when someone gives me a new "wrong" thing to think about. If they are nice or at least make a good point, then it's generally okay, but often people are just rude. On these occasions, I fall into a horrible pit of despair and take forever to recover.
Tonight someone was very rude to me in a way that was not constructive and uncalled for. I know I'm not imagining it because two other people witnessed this and were aghast and they both actually said something about it (I did NOT say anything, but I should have).
A few months ago, someone else implied that I was boring them while I was telling a (short!) story while socializing with a group. This person always wants to be the center of attention and they talk way too much, and I think they were annoyed that I had spent 30-60 seconds talking. She literally laughed at me and threw a paper airplane at my face and I was telling a serious story and not joking around. I worry a lot about boring people, so even though I knew she was rude, I cried about this for days and completely stopped talking to anyone in that social group.
So, back to tonight -- I don't want to get into it, but someone did something that made me feel similar. I assume that something about me reads as subhuman because so many people think it's okay to be disrespectful to me for no discernible reason. I have become very reclusive over the past couple of years and I have ditched all of my friends. I made a conscious decision to interact with people more. This is my second time out and now I don't want to bother anymore.
I was diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder six years ago, and that disorder is part of my problem.
Do other people experience these frequent bouts of rudeness? How do you react (both literally and emotionally)?