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Seeking for a formal diagnosis

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself' started by Ellie.s, Jun 19, 2017.

  1. Ellie.s

    Ellie.s New Member

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    Hello everyone! I'm glad I found a forum like this. Let me tell you a bit about myself. I always felt different than other people. I'm not formally diagnosed with aspergers. My doctor back then told me that as long as I'm full functioning, there's no need for diagnosis. The thing is that even though I'm full functioning, I always end up alone, friendless, not knowing the reason, people find me weird because I sometimes avoid eyecontact, they also say that I am heartless, which I don't think I am, I get distracted all the time, I can't go to a concert because of loud noises and lights, I take literally many things they say to me and it's embarrassing, and so on.I also have some positive traits like honesty, solving problems ect. My question is, they say that it's hard to get diagnosed in adulthood. Do you think that I don't need diagnosis? if I get diagnosed, is it gonna change my life? Will I get medication or something to help me with my problems? How can I convince the doctor to diagnose me?
     
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    WereBear License to Weird V.I.P Member

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    I got diagnosed. It was a relief to know but it did very little to actually help me. All the strategies I have tried are things I researched myself.

    So it's not like figuring out you have pneumonia and getting antibiotics. However, it can shape therapy and other strategies. Do you have a doctor now? Can you find someone who knows anything about Asperger's (itself a tough task) and explore some new strategies to help you cope with difficult things?

    One thing it has done for me is let me do things that will actually help. Like my doctor said "killer stress" and he was right, but getting out and doing fun things helps an NT, when what turns out to help me is finding a quiet room to read or write in, alone.
     
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    Welcome :)
     
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    Welcome :)

    Firstly, Ellie, it will depend on where you live on who can give you advice - its different in different countries :)
     
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    Thank you for the warm welcome!
    @WereBear thank you for your reply. I don't have a doctor, but I've got a friend with aspergers, maybe he could help me find one. I can relate so much to this:
    I will do some research on shape therapy but I doubt if there's an expert im my area to help me.
    @ksheehan88 unfortunately I live in a greek island. Over here you can only find a psychotherapist or a psychologist. Are there any other experts I should try to find?
     
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    Helloooo ellie.s. .....!
     
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    Nitro Immoral Turpitude Staff Member Admin V.I.P Member

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    And different parts of the country
     
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    Hello @Danny 74 and @Nitro !
    @Streetwise you are right. Do you think it would be better if I went to the capital?
    *sorry for my bad English!
     
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    DONT know ?depends where a person who could diagnose autism is
    Your English is amazing compared to my Greek
     
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    Heres a slightly irritating and amusing thought part of the etymology of the word diagnosis is to know thoroughly
    i wonder how many of the diagnosed agree
     
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    See? Your greek is fine! :)
     
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    At this point I'm self diagnosed, I'm on the fence as to whether or not to make it official... I feel like I've generally had a good life as (in my terms) an "eccentric" person... Talking to a good friend yesterday, he thinks I'm well adjusted (without even knowing what Asperger's was) is because I just don't care that much what other people think, I just live my life anyway... *shrugs* o_O
     
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    Tyrantus1212 An odd fellow. Yet a fellow.

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    Hello Ellie. I'm glad you found this community. I haven't been formally diagnosed either but my doc is certain that I have Asperger's and advised that I join an online community. I should have done all of this sooner, but better late than never. AC has been helping me explore my condition and gain more and more insight and experience. I'm really happy to be on here, I've learned so much over the couple of weeks I've been on it thus far. Even without a diagnosis my doc is helping me manage this condition. You shouldn't need medication for Asperger's and you might not even need a diagnosis if your doc is willing to help you manage it like mine is doing. Mine told me that I'd need to go to a specialist if I ever feel like I need a diagnosis.

    I can relate to pretty much everything you've described here - except perhaps for the lights/noises. In my case I get extremely freaked out by sudden noises, like a balloon popping; I remember in kindergarten just sitting on the couch completely frightened of any balloons potentially popping. I also cannot for the life in me stand thunder when it's time for me to sleep. Can't stand bad weather in general, totally pushes my buttons. I'm really hoping to severely diminish all my struggles, especially the severe anxieties, by going to my psychologist once a week, doing my best to heed his advice, and at the same time gaining further insight on Asperger's.
     
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    Theres nothing wrong with your english my dear...! :):)...! Hope you find all the answers you need on aspies central...
     
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    @Sherlock77
    I wish I was like that! It's good to know there are people out there doing fine with this condition!
    @Tyrantus1212 thank you so much for your reply! I really hope it will get better for you, me and anyone struggling and dealing with conditions like that.
    Both Sherlock's and Tyrantus's comments gave me hope.
    @Danny 74 thank you! I hope for the best.
     
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    I found strategies like a weighted blanket, an Apple app called Brainwaves, and lots of quiet solitude to be lifechanging for me.
     
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    @WereBear weighted blankets sounds awesome! Even in summer I sleep under a thin comforter. Can't sleep without it. I didn't know there's an app for brainwaves. I usually find them at youtube. You've been very helpful! Thank you.