PDoc says I don't have it because I was crying.

[kimical]

I visited my med prescribing doctor. The night before my fiance and I were arguing and he said something hurtful and I went to bed and woke up crying. When I went to see my med prescribing doctor I told him about the argument, also I told him I was in a car accident (I wasn't crying) and had my wallet stolen. Yeah it was a rough couple of months. Towards the end of the appointment I asked him about aspergers and he told me some info about it, he said he thought I didn't have it because I was crying about the argument with my fiance. He said if I had it an argument wouldn't make me so upset and that I was just shy and sensitive and need to work on gaining confidence and maintaining eye contact when I talk to people.

So my question to people with a diagnosis is, is that true? If someone you care about says something hurtful do you not care? Will you not cry? I figure any person with emotions would cry when stressed. Maybe I should talk to an "expert".

Also, he referred me for IQ testing. So maybe if I do have a high IQ he might rethink what he said.

 

[LittlePuff]

That is ridiculous. Most Aspies tend to be unemotional, but it can go to either extreme. I'm an overly sensitive and emotional one. There are others here like me. Try to find some books and information on the internet. There are a few quizes and questionnaires out there. Hang around here for a while too. You will learn a lot.

 

[smith2267]

I cry, albeit very, very rarely. OTOH, I am a man.
But the point is I am capable of it, and it stands to reason that an aspie woman would cry more than an aspie man, just as it is so with their NT counterparts.

 

[Undiagnosed]

I'm not diagnnosed but I am sure I have asperger's. I hardley ever cry or show emotion in public but in private or in an argument wih a partner I would cry. In reality I am oversinsitive and don't like to show it around people becouse I might loose controle of my emotions. There is so much about Asperger's to understand that I think all doctors can't really understand it all unless it is their area of specialty. I thik about all the syndromes and disorders and think there can be no way on psycologist, dr. or whatever can know all the little details about every one of them. If he did his mind would have to store facts like a computer. I think if you learn a lot about Asperger's you know if it truley fits you or not.

 

[Jesse]

The more Aspies I meet and get to know the more I see the full range of how it affects us. I cry from time to time; especially when watching sad films. I also dislike the assumption that Aspies have to have high IQs! Whilst this is often true it is not always true and in my opinion should not be used in a diagnosis. My daughter is being assessed at the moment and this is one of the things that our Mental Health Services insist on being part of the assessment - yet I know many aspies who would not score highly???

 

[kimical]

Most of the time I don't cry. For instance, I never cry during sad movies and my family is sometimes shocked by it. If I see other people cry I don't. It's just my fiance, I love him so much. I don't really have friends outside of my family, he's my only friend.

 

[kimical]

I'm not diagnnosed but I am sure I have asperger's. I hardley ever cry or show emotion in public but in private or in an argument wih a partner I would cry. In reality I am oversinsitive and don't like to show it around people becouse I might loose controle of my emotions. There is so much about Asperger's to understand that I think all doctors can't really understand it all unless it is their area of specialty. I thik about all the syndromes and disorders and think there can be no way on psycologist, dr. or whatever can know all the little details about every one of them. If he did his mind would have to store facts like a computer. I think if you learn a lot about Asperger's you know if it truley fits you or not.

I feel like that. I kept everything in until I was in his office. He asked me a lot of questions and I just lost it. I still think I have it, I want to see a specialist.

 

[Jontish]

You should ask him to read up on the subject, because clearly he doesn't know anything.

 

[dwc780]

I cry from time to time. Sometimes its stress, sometimes emotional overload, it depends. I am diagnosed Aspergers. Me-thinks you need to find a new Doctor who knows that Aspergers is a spectrum disorder and not a cut and dry set of symptoms.

 

[smith2267]

This is neither here nor there nor anywhere, but you are gorgeous. Just sayin'.

 

[Undiagnosed]

This is not the 'flirting' thread Smith.... LOL. .... just kiding... go ahead flirt away....

 

[Undiagnosed]

I feel like that. I kept everything in until I was in his office. He asked me a lot of questions and I just lost it. I still think I have it, I want to see a specialist.

I know how you feel. I was convinced i had borderling personality disorder (sill beleive I do) and talked to a therapist about it. She said she didn't see it in me. One of the 'obvoiuse' and commonley known traits of borderline personality disorde r is self harm such as cutting oneself and I do not do that. I kept seeing her for a while all the while learing more about this disorder between each visit and becomeing more certain I had it. I was hopeing she would learn more about me and more about the personality disorder and eventually see what I saw. At times she would refer to this disorder in referance to my actions but she never would exactley tell me if she diagnosed me with it or not. She just kept avoiding the 'diagnoseis' issue and kept telling me to focus of daily issues instead. Eventually I stoped going to her. I still beleive if I were to see a specialist who really knows the details of it the would see that I have it.

 

[Dragon's Tooth]

A lot of medical professionals are not familiar with aspergers. I wouldn't take his word for it. Not being able to cry is not a symptom of aspergers. I think you would be hard pressed to find anyone in this world who is incapable of crying due to emotion (even men as much as they don't want to admit it).

You need to speak to a specialist. Most GPs are not intimately familiar with every medical condition and are usually more clueless about mental health. My GP has a love of "go see this specialist" for everything I bring up. It annoys me because I have to drive four hours to see most specialists. So I have this pile of referrals and I have since figured out a lot of the stuff I was complaining about is actually related to mental health.

 

[Meistersinger]

Are you kidding? Lately, I been crying at the drop of a hat. I've always been over sensitive. The only way I could ever cope was to eat like a horse and spend money. I just get tired of being clueless.

 

[Pella]

I cry all the time. I think for an aspie it just depends on if you can relate to it. Also if things are piling up on you. I was crying while looking at pictures of baby elephants on facebook. Some aspies might not cry so much, it just depends.