Kuektal
Active Member
My step-daughter has autism. We spent a little over 3 years in and out of different therapies and school programs before getting to that diagnosis. We learned a lot along the way, including the near certainty that I have autism as well.
My wife and I decided that I should get evaluated. I have self diagnosed at this point, but still want a professional opinion. I have an evaluation scheduled for next week.
She has been acting very different towards me for the past couple weeks. For example, this morning I told my dad I would give him a ride to the beach tonight to spend time with his brother who is here from the other side of the country. I missed a call from him and noticed it about an hour before he had originally asked me to get him. My wife told me not to feel bad for missing his call. I jokingly said that I wished I had gotten it so that I might already be on my way home from the long drive.
Her response was to say that "Oh yeah, you're self centered. You only think about yourself because you are autistic." As if offering to give my dad a ride was somehow a self-centered act. I gave her examples of when I wasn't self centered and she was willing to say that those examples weren't self centered, but that I was self centered regardless because of autism.
Right before she went to sleep, she told me that she doesn't think she can handle being with me anymore because there were things about me she thought she could change, but now she doesn't think she can. She also told me that I was probably going to use autism as an excuse to get out of doing things or as an excuse for behavior.
I have done so much for her and her children (my step-children), over the past few years that it boggles my mind how she could ever say that I'm self centered.
I've been in love with this woman for 15 years and married to her for 3, but now that we are quite sure I have autism, she doesn't think she can be with me. I'm the same person I was before. What happened? Is this a common experience?
My wife and I decided that I should get evaluated. I have self diagnosed at this point, but still want a professional opinion. I have an evaluation scheduled for next week.
She has been acting very different towards me for the past couple weeks. For example, this morning I told my dad I would give him a ride to the beach tonight to spend time with his brother who is here from the other side of the country. I missed a call from him and noticed it about an hour before he had originally asked me to get him. My wife told me not to feel bad for missing his call. I jokingly said that I wished I had gotten it so that I might already be on my way home from the long drive.
Her response was to say that "Oh yeah, you're self centered. You only think about yourself because you are autistic." As if offering to give my dad a ride was somehow a self-centered act. I gave her examples of when I wasn't self centered and she was willing to say that those examples weren't self centered, but that I was self centered regardless because of autism.
Right before she went to sleep, she told me that she doesn't think she can handle being with me anymore because there were things about me she thought she could change, but now she doesn't think she can. She also told me that I was probably going to use autism as an excuse to get out of doing things or as an excuse for behavior.
I have done so much for her and her children (my step-children), over the past few years that it boggles my mind how she could ever say that I'm self centered.
I've been in love with this woman for 15 years and married to her for 3, but now that we are quite sure I have autism, she doesn't think she can be with me. I'm the same person I was before. What happened? Is this a common experience?