I don't know anything about this family.
I was raised a lot like these kids.
It says in the video that the kids were found duct taped. NOW THAT'S ABUSIVE AND AWFUL, and the parents should be arrested!! But I'm not talking about that. What I mean, is the things the mom is saying in the video, are pretty much exactly how I was raised. Other than the "repent" thing. There was nothing about repentance in my childhood. Also my parents were hippies, and had totally different personalities than the mom on the video. More laid back and mellow.
But otherwise, I thought a lot of the other stuff was just how people were raised back in the day. In fact, my parents would tell stories about how they were raised, and tell me to be thankful that I had it so easy.
For instance, in this video, the parents denied the children food. I was starved as a teenager until I was about 100 pounds. My brother got a full glass of milk, I would get a half glass, or none at all. I would go whole days without eating, and maybe the next day too.
Another thing- the kids, if they didn't behave, didn't get presents on holidays. This happened to me too. I wore the same shoes for several years as a child and teenager. Limping around in torn leather boots, with bleeding blisters, and crowded toes, was a normal part of my childhood. My favorite part of getting off the school bus was removing my shoes and being able to run around barefoot.
As a little girl, I didn't have a bedroom, or anything like that. Not even a bed. Before my brother was born, I had a little mattress in the alcove of the hallway. I had a tiny cabinet to keep my things in. After he was born, my mattress was thrown out by the shed, and my brother had the alcove in the hallway for his crib. I would cry about it. And if I was caught napping on my mattress, outside, I would be spanked. Was that abuse?
If I snuck out and went and slept in the travel trailer, where there was a bed, I would get punished. Because they thought I had disappeared. But it was so nice to lay out on the soft mattress. I also would sneak over to Grandma's house in the night, and they'd find me in their guest room. I would be punished for this too. Was that abuse?
And then we didn't have a toilet in our house. Not really running water either. So going to the bathroom meant walking in the dark to my grandmother's house. And my grandpa would often lock the door at night. So I would have to go outside behind trees or something. Was that abuse?
If I complained or cried about this treatment, I was told to stop being such a baby, and given something to cry about. Was that abuse?
I chose so wholeheartedly not to raise my daughter the way I was brought up. I have been told by relatives that I was being oversensitive. But something inside of me told me that the way I was brought up was wrong. I didn't know that society thought of this as abuse though.
It is hard, because I have to come to terms with a lot that I feel trauma from. I can say, "Yes, this was abuse. That is why I feel trauma. That is why I feel distrust."
But I always attibuted a lot of this to poverty. Because it was very hard for my parents to bring food or other things into the house.
And that's a scary feeling. Because I love my family. And I don't want to think things were worse than they were.
The video is a tiktok that autoplays. So I put it in the spoiler.
I was raised a lot like these kids.
It says in the video that the kids were found duct taped. NOW THAT'S ABUSIVE AND AWFUL, and the parents should be arrested!! But I'm not talking about that. What I mean, is the things the mom is saying in the video, are pretty much exactly how I was raised. Other than the "repent" thing. There was nothing about repentance in my childhood. Also my parents were hippies, and had totally different personalities than the mom on the video. More laid back and mellow.
But otherwise, I thought a lot of the other stuff was just how people were raised back in the day. In fact, my parents would tell stories about how they were raised, and tell me to be thankful that I had it so easy.
For instance, in this video, the parents denied the children food. I was starved as a teenager until I was about 100 pounds. My brother got a full glass of milk, I would get a half glass, or none at all. I would go whole days without eating, and maybe the next day too.
Another thing- the kids, if they didn't behave, didn't get presents on holidays. This happened to me too. I wore the same shoes for several years as a child and teenager. Limping around in torn leather boots, with bleeding blisters, and crowded toes, was a normal part of my childhood. My favorite part of getting off the school bus was removing my shoes and being able to run around barefoot.
As a little girl, I didn't have a bedroom, or anything like that. Not even a bed. Before my brother was born, I had a little mattress in the alcove of the hallway. I had a tiny cabinet to keep my things in. After he was born, my mattress was thrown out by the shed, and my brother had the alcove in the hallway for his crib. I would cry about it. And if I was caught napping on my mattress, outside, I would be spanked. Was that abuse?
If I snuck out and went and slept in the travel trailer, where there was a bed, I would get punished. Because they thought I had disappeared. But it was so nice to lay out on the soft mattress. I also would sneak over to Grandma's house in the night, and they'd find me in their guest room. I would be punished for this too. Was that abuse?
And then we didn't have a toilet in our house. Not really running water either. So going to the bathroom meant walking in the dark to my grandmother's house. And my grandpa would often lock the door at night. So I would have to go outside behind trees or something. Was that abuse?
If I complained or cried about this treatment, I was told to stop being such a baby, and given something to cry about. Was that abuse?
I chose so wholeheartedly not to raise my daughter the way I was brought up. I have been told by relatives that I was being oversensitive. But something inside of me told me that the way I was brought up was wrong. I didn't know that society thought of this as abuse though.
It is hard, because I have to come to terms with a lot that I feel trauma from. I can say, "Yes, this was abuse. That is why I feel trauma. That is why I feel distrust."
But I always attibuted a lot of this to poverty. Because it was very hard for my parents to bring food or other things into the house.
And that's a scary feeling. Because I love my family. And I don't want to think things were worse than they were.
The video is a tiktok that autoplays. So I put it in the spoiler.
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