goraidders
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So to those of you who dislike hugs what do you do to stop being hugged? Or do you just accept the hug, grin and bear it so to speak? My 17 year old daughter hates hugs. (Will be tested soon for autism as well as other things.) But we have a great deal of huggers in our social circles. We are in Arkansas in the southern US, and hugs are a very common way of greeting. We are also Jehovah's Witnesses and our congregation hugs a lot. She cares about them, but Sydney does not like hugs. There are only three or four people she is good with hugs from. When you take us(her parents) away from that there are a lot of hugs she gets she would rather not have. I told her it is her body and if she doesn't want a hug then we will figure out what to say to stop it. No one has a right to enter her space if she does not want them to. And if anyone has a problem it is there problem not hers. She said she did not want to make a big deal out of it and could handle it. But if I could figure out a way to say it that others can understand I think it would make her life less stressful. We are talking about people who have known her since she was a baby, and for a long time hugs did not bother her. Or at least she never let me know they did.
How can I reduce the hugs for her without causing her more embarrassment, or should I leave it alone like she said.
How can I reduce the hugs for her without causing her more embarrassment, or should I leave it alone like she said.