I always thought I was born in the wrong century.
I used the frame work I had available to make sense of my experience, and since I was not brought up with religion I had to look elsewhere for structure and I turned to books, and fantasy worlds.
My favoutite books when I was growing up were Frank Herbert's Dune, and The Lord of the Rings. I read them both well over ten times between the ages of 10 and 16 -17. I also read David Gemmel's books continously
Both Dune and LOTR are hero's journies which appeals to me, and they also operate inside structured social environments, so lots of heroism and excitment, with out confusing social encounters.
I believed I should have been born either in Viking Scandinavia or Britain before the Romans came, back in a time I believed was more honest, honourable and far more in touch with the environment than in the modern age.
I used to walk around school with my mind narrating what I was doing "The boy opened the door and went inside". I put that down to reading too much, but it's obviously an Austism trait and from living far too much in a fantasy world. I've certainly never met an NT who did anything like that.
My fantasy world and the real world seemed to merge together too, and I'd use words from books, and attempt to deal with the world and people using systems of honour from books and films.
That worked out great, as you can imagine
I hated school, but survived ok, as I'm lucky in that I was about the talest in my year, and willing to fight (I grew up the '80s in a roughneck town in the north of England). But no matter how deep into groups I got, I never felt part of them. I knew they kind of liked me, but certainly did not understand me.
I think my fantasy worlds helped a lot growing up, but they definitely lead to unrealistic expectations of people and life as a whole. I expected rock solid honour from friends and looked for damsels in distress for partners. The friends used to get dropped after not living up to my high standards, and the females were always nut cases in distress
SInce leaving school I've got into various things, which I can now see are ways of trying to find belonging, and all the groups are fringe of society and misunderstood; Heavy metal, certain drug scenes, Dance music, motorcycles.
The only one that felt I was a part of it was the Dance music scene as 99% of everyone in a club is going to be on drugs and the the difference then is very much reduced.
It's quite possibly the most fake scene you can be a part of though, and I've left all that behind many years ago.
I gave up trying to belong about 8 years ago and since have been trying to make my own path.
It's strange that only now, when I my need to find others like me is at it's lowest that I find I'm Aspie, and that there are many just like me.
I used the frame work I had available to make sense of my experience, and since I was not brought up with religion I had to look elsewhere for structure and I turned to books, and fantasy worlds.
My favoutite books when I was growing up were Frank Herbert's Dune, and The Lord of the Rings. I read them both well over ten times between the ages of 10 and 16 -17. I also read David Gemmel's books continously
Both Dune and LOTR are hero's journies which appeals to me, and they also operate inside structured social environments, so lots of heroism and excitment, with out confusing social encounters.
I believed I should have been born either in Viking Scandinavia or Britain before the Romans came, back in a time I believed was more honest, honourable and far more in touch with the environment than in the modern age.
I used to walk around school with my mind narrating what I was doing "The boy opened the door and went inside". I put that down to reading too much, but it's obviously an Austism trait and from living far too much in a fantasy world. I've certainly never met an NT who did anything like that.
My fantasy world and the real world seemed to merge together too, and I'd use words from books, and attempt to deal with the world and people using systems of honour from books and films.
That worked out great, as you can imagine
I hated school, but survived ok, as I'm lucky in that I was about the talest in my year, and willing to fight (I grew up the '80s in a roughneck town in the north of England). But no matter how deep into groups I got, I never felt part of them. I knew they kind of liked me, but certainly did not understand me.
I think my fantasy worlds helped a lot growing up, but they definitely lead to unrealistic expectations of people and life as a whole. I expected rock solid honour from friends and looked for damsels in distress for partners. The friends used to get dropped after not living up to my high standards, and the females were always nut cases in distress
SInce leaving school I've got into various things, which I can now see are ways of trying to find belonging, and all the groups are fringe of society and misunderstood; Heavy metal, certain drug scenes, Dance music, motorcycles.
The only one that felt I was a part of it was the Dance music scene as 99% of everyone in a club is going to be on drugs and the the difference then is very much reduced.
It's quite possibly the most fake scene you can be a part of though, and I've left all that behind many years ago.
I gave up trying to belong about 8 years ago and since have been trying to make my own path.
It's strange that only now, when I my need to find others like me is at it's lowest that I find I'm Aspie, and that there are many just like me.