Hello

[OlLiE]

Just wanted to say high, was diagnosed a couple of years ago (on the spectrum and high functioning) at my initiative as i was having multiple recurring issues in private, social and professional life. I had tried to fix it myself but was pretty unsuccessful at it. Doing what i can now with professional help (cognitive behavioural therapy and specific career counselling) to deal with most of the issues but was interested to see if there are people that resonate with me.

I'm particularly interested how people deal with emotions when i don't really seem to experience them the same way as other people do. How people here deal with emotion induced pointless irrationality and chaos. Also are there other people here that combine the spectrum with high sensitivity? Am i condemned to live through life in a headphones induced bubble as far away from people as possible, managing my exposure to the few people i feel comfortable with and in the best case just observing everyone else?

 

[Merahj]

Hello Ollie.

We all deal with our unique issues differently. Cognitive behavioral therapy and vitamin b 12 has worked for me. However it won't work for everyone. You are not doomed to live your life through headphones but you may have to find another way to deal with it.

Sorry I could not help you more but as they say " If you have met one Aspie, you have met one Aspie." Due to the difference in needs and sensitivities, I cannot base your ASD on mine and what helps me.

 

[Nitro]

 

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[xudo]

Welcome

 

[Soona45]

Hi Ollie, welcome.
I'm new here too! Everyone seems really friendly and supportive.
I was diagnosed about a month ago. So it's all new to me too!
All I'm doing at the moment is trying to find a balance between resting in the dark/quiet getting my emotions in check, but socialising just enough to not become a recluse.

 

[OlLiE]

Hi Soona, i know the feeling, been home for a while now. My preferred situation is at home with the curtains drawn in quiet and keep the temperature low, spend a lot of time with noise cancelling headphones. I've got my emotions on lockdown but I avoid socialising though, i've got IBS as well and groups of noisy people stress me enough to send me running to the bathroom . Having to interpret and respond to other people's emotional needs is just too tiring so i'm trying to enjoy being a recluse .

 

[Judge]

Am i condemned to live through life in a headphones induced bubble as far away from people as possible, managing my exposure to the few people i feel comfortable with and in the best case just observing everyone else?

It's not so bad. Right at this moment I'm savoring the sound of a ceiling fan, my refrigerator and the occasional sound of central a/c coming on. With few if any sounds of humanity to be heard. To me it's like a fine wine to sip. Perhaps in my case, this is as good as it gets.

Sometimes isolation can be lonely. But more often than not it is the glue that keeps my sanity in one piece.

Welcome to AC.

 

[OlLiE]

It's not so bad. Right at this moment I'm savoring the sound of a ceiling fan, my refrigerator and the occasional sound of central a/c coming on. With few if any sounds of humanity to be heard. To me it's like a fine wine to sip.

Sometimes isolation can be lonely. But more often than not it is the glue that keeps my sanity in one piece.

Welcome to AC.

Thank you for the feedback, i agree, i love quiet, sometimes however i wonder though if i follow my tendencies and embrace isolation, what is the point of existing as a person, can you be a person if you exist as a single entity blocking out the world, i'm aware enough from observing people in their natural habitat to realise that i am missing out on what gives most 'normal' people's lives purpose. I've accepted myself and don't feel like i'm missing anything but i also realise intellectually that in fact i am. It's kind of weird. I look at people and i can see that they are happy, i understand they are happy but i don't really know what it is supposed to feel like, this is the kind of stuff that preoccupies me when i decide to think about it. Hence the worries about living in a perpetual bubble.

 

[Judge]

I look at people and i can see that they are happy, i understand they are happy but i don't really know what it is supposed to feel like, this is the kind of stuff that preoccupies me when i decide to think about it. Hence the worries about living in a perpetual bubble.

Have you ever been medically examined for clinical depression? It's commonly comorbid to ASD. Something I have to deal with along with OCD. Happiness in my world is simply something other people have.