You scored higher than I on the EQ, I got 13... but I'm sure that I can be very empathetic, more so than most people. I think maybe it has to do with our ability to read what others are feeling as opposed to being able to feel along with them once we know what they are feeling. Perhaps it is to do with how much other people's feelings affect us on a continual basis, passing strangers in the street etc. as opposed to having empathy for those we know well and care about or for some reason feel a connection with. I usually operate without much interference from emotion but certainly sometimes am more affected by emotion than most people.
Hopefully someone who knows more about the EQ will enlighten us, it was a surprise for me for sure.
Well, I think I'm an empathic person. I just tend to live in my head the majority of the time and my emotions don't often rise to the surface for others to see. But I do care. I just have a different way of showing it.
For example, I'm not the type of person who will ask someone how they're feeling just for the sake of asking. I find that pointless. But whenever I see someone is troubled or in distress then I'll ask how I can help or I do something to help.
I can usually pick up on people's emotions. Like if someone is having a bad day at work, I can tell that they may be upset. But I'm the type of person that if I don't know the individual that well then I don't pry into their personal business. I figure, why bother the person by asking what's wrong and possibly making them more upset. I don't like to be bothered when I'm upset, so I think that others feel the same way.
I've only recently realized that this isn't the case with the majority of people.
I don't know how I missed the memo but, apparently, most people like to be asked how they're doing/feeling. They like to talk about their emotions or what's troubling them. Me, not so much unless I see a point to it or it's with someone I've known very well for years. And even then, I still tend to stay in my head.
So, I can see how I might be perceived as not having as much empathy as others. I think I look at it as I'm just more reserved in what emotions I'm willing to share.