Why don't I fit in with other autistic people?

[Progster]

I have always tended to get on with people who are on the fringes of mainstream society for one reason or another, and I have come to realise that that one or two friends I had in the past were probably on the spectrum. However, being on the spectrum is not a guarantee that I will get on with them. Many are into video games, I'm not. Many talk a lot, I don't. Many like pop music, I don't. Just as is the case with all people, I need to have something in common, some shared interest or activity, a similar mindset, or it won't work. Also, socialising and activities based around talking don't work with me, talking really isn't my thing, I like doing.

 

[scrp14]

I think i found quite recently my problem with not being able to understand other aspies or auties, is that I was not technically a sufferer of aspergers to begin with, and that my symptoms of dealing with everyday life resonate very similar to those who have schizo-affective disorder, and that the social anxiety part is the only component of aspergers I exhibit, with the rest from schizophrenia and possibly the learning difficulty part of classic autism (kanners being the official diagnosis).

 

[Mary Anne]

Why don't I fit in with other autistic people? Every camp I go to (all of them were special ed or special ed inclusive), everybody thinks me as retarded or stupid. Even the autistic people think that. All people look at is my immature behavior and think me as retarded, weird, and nasty. Those other autistic people get along with each other just fine. I'm very mad about this. Even after 2 years. They don't give me a chance to show everybody what i'm good at. Another thing that is weird is that some NTs are interested in me, but it doesn't make any sense at all. They don't have anything in common with me at all while a lot of special ed people have a lot of common interests that I have and are not interested in me at all. I can't take this anymore! This is too confusing and annoying. I want to make friends with people i'm comfortable with. What should I do?

Edit: A user on WrongPlanet, who's user profile displayed his age as 20 (same as mine) and gender as male (same as mine), typed something nasty in my thread on WrongPlanet. His post is at this link: How do I convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute? | Wrong Planet Autism Community Forum

For one thing that thread on that other autism “wrong planet” site, in which you talked for 8 long pages about forcing her to stay young and cute, was extremely disturbing, and the thread got closed down. You wrote that not in a “special ed” way, but as a full high IQ adult. It creeps people out, and makes them throughly distrust you. That’s why. You might not be who you say you are. It’s difficult to know, being online and such, but your writing style and sentence structure was totally not as you describe yourself above.

 

[Ephraim Becker]

For one thing that thread on that other autism “wrong planet” site, in which you talked for 8 long pages about forcing her to stay young and cute, was extremely disturbing, and the thread got closed down. You wrote that not in a “special ed” way, but as a full high IQ adult. It creeps people out, and makes them throughly distrust you. That’s why. You might not be who you say you are. It’s difficult to know, being online and such, but your writing style and sentence structure was totally not as you describe yourself above.

People with autism can actually have a better IQ than a neurotypical person. Why would calling my youngest sister (9 years old, turning 10 in June) "Cutie" and my one and only 7-year old brother "Pinny The Pooh" be disturbing and make people distrust me?

 

[Fridgemagnetman]

People with autism can actually have a better IQ than a neurotypical person. Why would calling my youngest sister (9 years old, turning 10 in June) "Cutie" and my one and only 7-year old brother "Pinny The Pooh" be disturbing and make people distrust me?

Paedophilia

 

[Mary Anne]

I think we all here as aspies, have “better I.Q s”. Your 8 pages swing between between very uncomfortably different maturities. I am confident that is NOT your portrait (avatar), but someone’s you took off Internet. You just swing in way too many ways, and that is what is uncomfortable along with that avatar. You write not as a “silly, immature person” that you describe yourself as, but as a 100% completely in-control adult person who is obsessed with controlling little children in very uncomfortable ways. You appear to pretend to be someone you are not.

That’s why people got all weirded out and closed the thread. Your subject matter, and inauthenticity. They will do that too here, if you start up with that “Stop Cutie from growing up,” business. Too many people have met people like you in their past. “Cutie” might not even be real, but just a fantasy. It doesn’t matter! Just stop. Stop talking about kissing and touching little children. Just stop talking about children at all.

You asked, and I told you.

 

[Nason]

People with autism can actually have a better IQ than a neurotypical person. Why would calling my youngest sister (9 years old, turning 10 in June) "Cutie" and my one and only 7-year old brother "Pinny The Pooh" be disturbing and make people distrust me?

Ephraim, do your brother and sister give permission to call them that? If not you are violating them. You should stop.

 

[Nason]

I'm just making a general inference here: I feel that Ephraim is a "troll". I'm disengaging Bye bye

 

[ksheehan88]

I believe you made a thread here entirely on the "cute little sister" subject. I remember you and it because it made me feel super uncomfortable.

 

[Mary Anne]

I believe you made a thread here entirely on the "cute little sister" subject. I remember you and it because it made me feel super uncomfortable.

Yes, here AND on another autism forum, where they closed the thread down:
How do I convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute?

 

[Mary Anne]

Why don't I fit in with other autistic people? Every camp I go to (all of them were special ed or special ed inclusive), everybody thinks me as retarded or stupid. Even the autistic people think that. All people look at is my immature behavior and think me as retarded, weird, and nasty. Those other autistic people get along with each other just fine. I'm very mad about this. Even after 2 years. They don't give me a chance to show everybody what i'm good at. Another thing that is weird is that some NTs are interested in me, but it doesn't make any sense at all. They don't have anything in common with me at all while a lot of special ed people have a lot of common interests that I have and are not interested in me at all. I can't take this anymore! This is too confusing and annoying. I want to make friends with people i'm comfortable with. What should I do?

Edit: A user on WrongPlanet, who's user profile displayed his age as 20 (same as mine) and gender as male (same as mine), typed something nasty in my thread on WrongPlanet. His post is at this link: How do I convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute? | Wrong Planet Autism Community Forum

If that is not you, then why did YOU POST THE SAME EXACT TOPIC HERE? (Link below) How did “ that other guy” use exactly the same words, and avatar as you if...he is not you? You yourself are always going on about your sister “Cutie.”

How do I convince my 8 year old sister to remain cute?

It’s you. Quit playing games.

 

[Frostee]

Yes, although it depends on the group! A group that I struggle with seems to have Aspies who don't have any social anxiety/social issues.

 

[Mary Anne]

Yes, although it depends on the group! A group that I struggle with seems to have Aspies who don't have any social anxiety/social issues.

That is NOT what you are struggling with. You ask for help, and then you ignore and do not acknowledge when people help you. This hurts other sensitive aspies like me. You are doing the same thing you say others in your daily life do to you. I believe, that once you understand that you get back what you are giving out, that things will go much better for you, and your world will become happier.

 

[Ephraim Becker]

I am confident that is NOT your portrait (avatar), but someone’s you took off Internet. You just swing in way too many ways, and that is what is uncomfortable along with that avatar.

If you don't believe that my user avatar is me then look at this picture taken by me:

I think we all here as aspies, have “better I.Q s”. Your 8 pages swing between between very uncomfortably different maturities.

You just swing in way too many ways, and that is what is uncomfortable along with that avatar. You write not as a “silly, immature person” that you describe yourself as, but as a 100% completely in-control adult person who is obsessed with controlling little children in very uncomfortable ways. You appear to pretend to be someone you are not.

That’s why people got all weirded out and closed the thread. Your subject matter, and inauthenticity. They will do that too here, if you start up with that “Stop Cutie from growing up,” business. Too many people have met people like you in their past. “Cutie” might not even be real, but just a fantasy. It doesn’t matter! Just stop. Stop talking about kissing and touching little children. Just stop talking about children at all.

You asked, and I told you.

It's hard for me to adapt to change and I was used to Cutie and Pinny The Pooh being cute babies. It's very hard for me to make a 180-degree turn. I need some help with that. My parents (especially my father) gets mad at me every time he hears that I touch Pinny The Pooh. My father is keep on telling me that my little brother can get psychologically damaged from me doing this. But it's hard for me to stop doing this. I just feel my 7-year-old little brother's cuteness very attractive.

 

[Mary Anne]

If you don't believe that my user avatar is me then look at this picture taken by me:

It's hard for me to adapt to change and I was used to Cutie and Pinny The Pooh being cute babies. It's very hard for me to make a 180-degree turn. I need some help with that. My parents (especially my father) gets mad at me every time he hears that I touch Pinny The Pooh. My father is keep on telling me that my little brother can get psychologically damaged from me doing this. But it's hard for me to stop doing this. I just feel my 7-year-old little brother's cuteness very attractive.

If YOU do NOT stop talking about this....you are doing something very illegal. I have to report you to our moderators NOW.

 

[tree]

@Ephraim Becker

"My parents (especially my father) gets mad at me every time he hears that I touch Pinny The Pooh. My father is keep on telling me that my little brother can get psychologically damaged from me doing this. But it's hard for me to stop doing this."

What exactly do you mean when you say "touch"/"doing this"?

What is the thing that you are doing?

 

[Mary Anne]

@Ephraim Becker

"My parents (especially my father) gets mad at me every time he hears that I touch Pinny The Pooh. My father is keep on telling me that my little brother can get psychologically damaged from me doing this. But it's hard for me to stop doing this."

What exactly do you mean when you say "touch"/"doing this"?

What is the thing that you are doing?

@tree, I have been reading everything Ephraim writes, including on other forums. He has gotten his threads locked because readers are greatly upset by his constant obsession with his younger siblings in very unhealthy ways. This is very triggering for some folks. Ask away if you must, but you are only encouraging his obsessions. I suggest you read this entire thread, and the other links posted.

 

[Nason]

How do you report a member I have had enough of this (triggered).

 

[tree]

How do you report a member I have had enough of this (triggered).

Use the Report button.

 

[Nason]

Use the Report button.

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