poshnumptybird
New Member
Hi All,
Im new to this site, and im desperately looking for some advice from people who may understand, rather than friends who just think im crazy for staying in my relationship. .
Ive been with my partner for 3 years on the 5th Febuary this year, and i absolutely love him to bits, we are getting married in 5 months time.
I just find myself constantly wondering if im doing the right thing, as im finding that his aspergers traits are only extremely bad when he is with me. I can not discuss anything at all with him, without him taking offence to it, he shouts constantly at me, covers his ears so he cant hear me and then ends up slaming doors and walking off. I work away alot, so really look forward to coming home to spend time with him, but within half an hour, he has fallen out with me.
He rolls his eys if i mention anything to do with the wedding, and if i ask if its definatley what he wants, the shouting starts again.
I see him with his children, having conversations with them, and he never loses his temper, even if they disagree with him about something, he just explains to them... why can he not do this with me??
He says im not the same any more and i dont try like i used too, and if he didnt want to marry me id know about it.
I work with children and young adults with aspergers, so i thought i would be perfect for him, i feel like im so understanding with him, but now its like i dont have an opinion or voice in this relationship. Im struggling so much, i really dont want to walk away, as i love the times that we do spend together when we are happy, although these are becoming less frequent. I feel like im constantly tip toeing around him to make sure he is ok, whilst im not. :-(
Thank you
Im new to this site, and im desperately looking for some advice from people who may understand, rather than friends who just think im crazy for staying in my relationship. .
Ive been with my partner for 3 years on the 5th Febuary this year, and i absolutely love him to bits, we are getting married in 5 months time.
I just find myself constantly wondering if im doing the right thing, as im finding that his aspergers traits are only extremely bad when he is with me. I can not discuss anything at all with him, without him taking offence to it, he shouts constantly at me, covers his ears so he cant hear me and then ends up slaming doors and walking off. I work away alot, so really look forward to coming home to spend time with him, but within half an hour, he has fallen out with me.
He rolls his eys if i mention anything to do with the wedding, and if i ask if its definatley what he wants, the shouting starts again.
I see him with his children, having conversations with them, and he never loses his temper, even if they disagree with him about something, he just explains to them... why can he not do this with me??
He says im not the same any more and i dont try like i used too, and if he didnt want to marry me id know about it.
I work with children and young adults with aspergers, so i thought i would be perfect for him, i feel like im so understanding with him, but now its like i dont have an opinion or voice in this relationship. Im struggling so much, i really dont want to walk away, as i love the times that we do spend together when we are happy, although these are becoming less frequent. I feel like im constantly tip toeing around him to make sure he is ok, whilst im not. :-(
Thank you