Spotty01
Well-Known Member
I feel like this might be a private, pressing matter for some, but if you don't want to speak of it here, then you don't have to. No judging here. ^^
Alright, onto the topic proper. This is a bit of a random topic that came to mind, but I haven't made a thread in a while (just watched the responses rack up in the threads I've already made) so I decided on this one. Buckle up, kiddies, 'cause this is gonna be a long one (have I already made this joke?)
I haven't met many people of the "asexual" orientation in real life. Okay, scratch that, I've never met a person of the asexuality orientation in real life... unless they just never talked about it. If so, then I just straight-up don't know. But here's a weird thing regarding this. Back in high school, and, Hell, even in late middle/junior high/secondary school, it seemed like everyone was either going around talking about their sexual orientation every single time they opened their mouth or were bragging about the people they've "sexed" with or the people that they want to do it with, as well as talking about how they want to have kids once they graduate (or, in some cases, they were already pregnant).
Yeah, high school was a bit of a mess...
Really, though, I've never understood the appeal. Like, at all. I'm not going to say I'm not guilty of thinking about it from time to time, but whenever I do, it makes me feel really uncomfortable and a bit anxious. If you want more examples, then I've got plenty. Seeing a couple of students making out in the halls? Ugh, gag me. Seeing a makeout or sex scene in a TV show or movie? I either look away, change the channel, or just get plain nauseous.
On top of that, you're risking A LOT by sticking your private parts in someone else's. Let's see, there's sexually-transmitted diseases (some which are fatal or just torture you for the rest of your life), the possibility of injuries or even death from getting, er... "creative" with it, and, of course, when you're a female, there's the ever present possibility of pregnancy, which is practically an STD in itself IMO (that is strictly my own opinion, just remember that). I just don't feel like going through forty years of bleeding half to death once a month and the only way to stop it being going through nine months of puking, hormonal imbalances, and wishing you were dead.
I don't consider any of that worth it. At all.
There are plenty of other people who are A LOT more willing to deal with nine months of the aforementioned pregnancy symptoms and then eighteen more years of taking care of another human being than I am. In all seriousness, I've seen so many people with 3 or more kids that they're barely paying attention to and casually allowing to run wild and be a bunch of annoying little s***s that I have officially lost count. It’s appalling. Why have ‘em if you don’t care enough to take care of ‘em? Not to mention we can apparently just grow fetuses (fetii?) in test tubes or something, so why do we even need to reproduce biologically anymore?
Am I sounding like a misanthropic monster yet? Yes? Well, too bad, because this vent train is still rollin’!
Why is asexuality looked down on so? You look up “asexual” or some variation of the word, half of the pictures will be posters about how asexual folks are always misunderstood and often bullied horribly for some reason. Why? Apparently a lot of people simply assume it means “aromantic” (someone who experiences no romantic attraction to others) or never allow asexual people to be asexual, as if having love without sex is some sort of capital crime. Now, I, for one, wouldn’t mind identifying as aromantic one way or another. I’ve had to deal with enough BS with simple friendships, I don’t even want to begin with anything that isn’t platonic. I wouldn’t mind having a best friend or something, sure, but no further than that.
Romantic relationships just seem too… risky? Is that the right word? If you get with the wrong man or woman, you may find yourself trapped in an abusive relationship or end up involved with some things you strictly do not want to get involved with (imagine meeting a nice guy/girl… then learning they’re in a violent gang or in the mafia or something like that). There’s also the risk of getting taken advantage of for your body; from what I’ve seen, a frightening amount of people only want you for your body (I AM NOT SAYING THEY ALL DO, please don’t eat me…) and that just a five-star recipe for an abusive relationship. Especially when I, for one, absolutely despise the idea of having sex and, even more so, the idea of getting pregnant in a sea of people who want nothing but that out of a partner. I feel like that could end up running off a lot of people and, at the time being anyway, I don’t know how I’d react to getting dumped.
To put it lightly, my bitter, grudge-holding reactions to losing a friend, much less a romantic partner, are bad enough. It’s just not a form of hurt I ever want to have to feel again; if my only friends end up being a bunch of strangers on the other side of a computer screen, then so be it.
But, back to the main topic. I saw one that said, simply: if sex without love can exist, then why can’t love without sex exist to? Really. Why? Maybe it’s a morality thing; by not having sex, you’re not contributing to the world around you, but then again, it’s not like we’re living in a post-apocalyptic, blasted wasteland! Jeez, maybe think more about overpopulation than under-population! I mean, just look at China!
Okay, okay, breathe. Back to the main topic.
I’m a little curious, is asexuality a common thing with folks on the Spectrum? I’ve noticed a few people here have said they have kids, which banishes the whole “asexual” idea, but is anyone else on here of the asexual sort? Again, it’s a private question, I know, but I’m just little curious. I kinda feel like I’m the only asexual person on Earth right about now.
One more thing: where are all the asexual pride things? The flags? The parades? The social groups and such? As far as I know, there aren’t any. I feels a little unfair. All the other LGBT folks get these things, but asexual folks don’t? The asexual spectrum just seems to be full of nothing but trying and failing to be understood by the world and being forced to hide their orientation from the world while LGBT’s throw their orientation around like confetti on the Fourth of July.
Seems a little like us with ASD, if you ask me.
That is all.
