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I have no problem with this because I know the contexts. If it's casual I usually say "How have you been?". If it's formal I say "I'm fine, and you?".
I know the context, I just find it offensive. Especially when these same people criticize us for being rigid & inflexible, and obsessively attached to the repetition of nonsensical routines. Do they realize they're describing their own behavior more than ours? I have routines & systems to how I complete certain tasks, but they're based in efficiency & practicality … which they'd see if they would stop condescending to me & listen for five minutes. And my routines are far from inflexible, in fact I'm always looking for ways to make my processes more efficient & productive. These people are just butthurt because I won't do everything their way.
Exactly! I could not have said it better!
By the way, how have you been?
What is wrong with society? Do you have a couple of years? Because I have a huge prepared list in my mind that I can rattle off to anyone who cares.
Society is sick, sick, sick.
I've become pretty jaded over the years to all the nonsense NT babble that I'm required to engage in in order to seem normal, but the "how are you" thing I find a bit sick-minded, to be honest. You're going through a rough time in your life? You need some help? Well, just look at all these people asking how you are! Here's your chance to talk about your struggles and get them off your chest! Oh wait, none of them actually care, and if you answer that question with anything other than "I'm fine, thanks" you're rude and intrustive. How dare you.
What is wrong with society?
YES! This especially applies to people in church. They're always talking about "encouraging" and "reaching out," but then when the opportunity comes, they're all like, "Well, looks like it's time for me to go, it was nice talking to you, hope that works out" just to sound polite.
See, when I ask "how are you?" It's because I actually want to know hahaha.
Right? I know a lot of people are just making conversation, but some people are generally interested. Besides, in my humble opinion, if you don't want to know, then don't ask!That's what I love about Aspies! Why do people think it's a bad thing??
What is wrong with society? Do you have a couple of years? Because I have a huge prepared list in my mind that I can rattle off to anyone who cares.
Society is sick, sick, sick.
YES! This especially applies to people in church. They're always talking about "encouraging" and "reaching out," but then when the opportunity comes, they're all like, "Well, looks like it's time for me to go, it was nice talking to you, hope that works out" just to sound polite.
See, when I ask "how are you?" It's because I actually want to know hahaha.
I HATE this greeting. Not only because it's a greeting I use hundreds of times a day But because it's so stale and lame and many times a lie. I used to answer it honestly until I figured out it was an NT way to pretend they care when they really dont.
One time I ventured away from the scripr; very untypical of me. I told the customer I was tired and they just laughed nervously. What, can't handle a little honesty?