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I've never been comfortable with the "Because I said so" line of rationale and I never did that with my kids. It seems like a blatant abuse of power, to me, to expect anyone to do something without providing them with a reasonable reason for doing so.Apart from the fact that this was sole a "husband / he" conversation which somehow feels wrong - I do work almost exclusively through logic, rational and usually very what I call "transactional" - ie. I do something for a reason, not just because.
School and unfortunately I also had a stint in the military (mandatory when I was younger) got me in trouble with this more than personal live. I don't do things just because someone uses the "because I say so" logic - I have to understand the reason why and also whats the desired outcome (the transactional bit).
Yeah - can't stand it, got me on SO much trouble over the years but even softer approaches that don't seem to make sense to me (or I don't know the rational) are really hard for me to just blindly follow - they tend to go all the way down on my priority list as a result.I've never been comfortable with the "Because I said so" line of rationale and I never did that with my kids. It seems like a blatant abuse of power, to me, to expect anyone to do something without providing them with a reasonable reason for doing so.
I can relate to this very well.find it so, that if the social environment isn't making sense in this kind of way, I can't function in it. If people are super emotionally reactive and their "reasoning" is based, purely on "feelings" then I am at a loss of how to function. And I don't feel particularly "safe"
I understand. I'm a bit "Demand avoidant", always have been, but at the same time, I prefer, and operate better with direct requests and am generally happy to oblige if things are reasonable and if I have the energy to do so.Yeah - can't stand it, got me on SO much trouble over the years but even softer approaches that don't seem to make sense to me (or I don't know the rational) are really hard for me to just blindly follow - they tend to go all the way down on my priority list as a result.
To be honest, I didn't even listen to all of it. My untreated ADHD side kicked in and so I just posted it as a bit of back up for the topic. I prefer the conversation with people here, too. I guess it was the novelty of never seeing anything else, on yt (I'm a yt addict) addressing this aspect of commonly experienced autistic cognitive theory, or should I say meta cognition theory, because it's really an underpinning way of functioning in the world, as well as a value, that plenty of us share, I guess, but, I'm not exactly a researcher scientist, more a backyard cultural theorist and autism info addict.I can relate to this very well.
However, I don't like the way the guy in the video is presenting it. Looking at his various websites he seems to be a self-proclaimed expert on misbehaving teenagers and living with someone who is autistic. He (Mr Mark Hutten of Online Parent Support, LLC) pitches everything like some dodgy timeshare property salesman - which isn't surprising as he seems to be very focused on selling his "program".
I have met autistic women who have also said they are very analytical and describe this sort of experience too. I recall one saying something along the lines of "I'm a why person, I need to know the rationale for something before I'll agree to it". So I presume he's focusing on pitching to wives of autistic men not because only autistic men think this way, but because he's analysed his sales and found that middle-aged married women are his most lucrative market - or something like that.
So, ok, interesting topic. But I'd much rather listen to what you @Neri have to say about it, and the rest of us here, than listen to any more from him.
I've never been comfortable with the "Because I said so" line of rationale and I never did that with my kids. It seems like a blatant abuse of power, to me, to expect anyone to do something without providing them with a reasonable reason for doing so.
Perhaps, but as someone who has experience, or should I say experiences, from a young child, of such things, those types of things aren't mutually exclusive. I am someone, who, as a result of such experiences, has been an avid researcher, into such things, from a young age.Overreliance on logic and rationale is what makes it difficult for so many to understand metaphysical realities.
Perhaps, but as someone who has experience, or should I say experiences, from a young child, of such things, those types of things aren't mutually exclusive. I am someone, who, as a result of such experiences, has been an avid researcher, into such things, from a young age.
I think experience is the clincher, I don't think being close minded is a sign of "logic" either, especially when you realize that an inaccurate base premise will only lead to faulty logic.
Curiosity is "logical" . Beyond this reality and the nature OF reality, are basic, foundational things to be curious about, don't you think? Thinking we have all the answers is illogical, as is thinking our way must be the right way simply because it is our way.
So I think I use my logical way of thinking to be open to always wanting to experience MORE rather than thinking I know very much at all.
I am satisfied, through my veracious curiosity and years of research, that life goes on, beyond this life. And I know that religion is not based on nothing, nor can it all be written off as coming from the minds of crazy people. In fact, I have a deep and abiding love of metaphysical knowledge and understanding.
But one thing I do know, is that when we get very emotionally invested in things, without developing our frontal lobe "reasoning" mind, we can be very subject to very irrational and illogical types of "thinking" or rather emotional reacting, so, I don't really see things things the same way as you @Fino.
Educated biblical-based thinking people know that the Greek origin of "In the beginning was the word and the word was God" that word "word" was Logos. God IS Logos, which is the origin, etymologically, of the word Logic.
So you see? "Logic" and "metaphysics" are implicately bound by the very origins of the word Logic, at least in our english speaking culture, which has been steeped in Judeo Christian filters for the last quite a few hundred years now.
Perhaps, but as someone who has experience, or should I say experiences, from a young child, of such things, those types of things aren't mutually exclusive. I am someone, who, as a result of such experiences, has been an avid researcher, into such things, from a young age.
I think experience is the clincher, I don't think being close minded is a sign of "logic" either, especially when you realize that an inaccurate base premise will only lead to faulty logic.
Curiosity is "logical" . Beyond this reality and the nature OF reality, are basic, foundational things to be curious about, don't you think? Thinking we have all the answers is illogical, as is thinking our way must be the right way simply because it is our way.
So I think I use my logical way of thinking to be open to always wanting to experience MORE rather than thinking I know very much at all.
I am satisfied, through my veracious curiosity and years of research, that life goes on, beyond this life. And I know that religion is not based on nothing, nor can it all be written off as coming from the minds of crazy people. In fact, I have a deep and abiding love of metaphysical knowledge and understanding.
But one thing I do know, is that when we get very emotionally invested in things, without developing our frontal lobe "reasoning" mind, we can be very subject to very irrational and illogical types of "thinking" or rather emotional reacting, so, I don't really see things things the same way as you @Fino.
Educated biblical-based thinking people know that the Greek origin of "In the beginning was the word and the word was God" that word "word" was Logos. God IS Logos, which is the origin, etymologically, of the word Logic.
So you see? "Logic" and "metaphysics" are implicately bound by the very origins of the word Logic, at least in our english speaking culture, which has been steeped in Judeo Christian filters for the last quite a few hundred years now.
That's me, and my wife. I might even suggest she (NT) is actually, more so than I am. So, at the the very least, we are operating on the same set of rules.
Overreliance on logic and rationale is what makes it difficult for so many to understand metaphysical realities.
Or a Paradigm shift is needed.That's where one must "shift gears" rather abruptly. When logic and rationale are of no value when based only on an earthly perspective of things.