Axeman52
Well-Known Member
Hi
One thing I've often seen listed as a common trait of AS is non-specific "speech peculiarities". I thought I spoke "normally", just unusually quietly most of the time, and sometimes a bit monotonously.
But on friday night while setting up for a gig the sound man had a sudden and confusing outburst of laughter because he said "the bathroom is safe. if you lock yourself in the bathroom, nothing can get you" and I said "I can think of lots of things that can get you in the bathroom"... I had no idea why he was laughing and eventually when he managed to calm down enough to talk coherently, he said "The inflection in your voice made that sound really, REALLY sleazy".
That got me thinking and made me realise, there have been many occasions where I have been completely misunderstood, for reasons I didn't understand because I have not been able to work out how my choice of words could've been more clear, and I guess it must be something to do with what happens when I semi-automatically go into "NT speech mode" where I am kind of trying to emulate the tone of voice that other people around me are using (I'm not actually aware that I'm doing this while I'm doing it most of the time, but it's definitely something I do a lot, now that I think about it). I guess in certain situations, people have relied on misleading non-verbal cues I have unintentionally given through trying to speak in a more "normal" tone of voice, as well as the verbal information I meant to give them, to reach their own flawed understanding of what they thought I was trying to tell them...
Well.. This post kinda digressed a bit and now I'm not even sure where I'm going with it... I guess I'll try and ask a coherent question/point of discussion that sort of makes sense of my scatterbrained ramblings:
Do you think that speech peculiarities that are associated with AS can be the cause of this confusion I sometimes experience where my tone of voice seems to be interpreted by others as a non-verbal cue that inaccurately informs their understanding of the purely verbal information I'm trying to give them? and does anyone else experience this?
One thing I've often seen listed as a common trait of AS is non-specific "speech peculiarities". I thought I spoke "normally", just unusually quietly most of the time, and sometimes a bit monotonously.
But on friday night while setting up for a gig the sound man had a sudden and confusing outburst of laughter because he said "the bathroom is safe. if you lock yourself in the bathroom, nothing can get you" and I said "I can think of lots of things that can get you in the bathroom"... I had no idea why he was laughing and eventually when he managed to calm down enough to talk coherently, he said "The inflection in your voice made that sound really, REALLY sleazy".
That got me thinking and made me realise, there have been many occasions where I have been completely misunderstood, for reasons I didn't understand because I have not been able to work out how my choice of words could've been more clear, and I guess it must be something to do with what happens when I semi-automatically go into "NT speech mode" where I am kind of trying to emulate the tone of voice that other people around me are using (I'm not actually aware that I'm doing this while I'm doing it most of the time, but it's definitely something I do a lot, now that I think about it). I guess in certain situations, people have relied on misleading non-verbal cues I have unintentionally given through trying to speak in a more "normal" tone of voice, as well as the verbal information I meant to give them, to reach their own flawed understanding of what they thought I was trying to tell them...
Well.. This post kinda digressed a bit and now I'm not even sure where I'm going with it... I guess I'll try and ask a coherent question/point of discussion that sort of makes sense of my scatterbrained ramblings:
Do you think that speech peculiarities that are associated with AS can be the cause of this confusion I sometimes experience where my tone of voice seems to be interpreted by others as a non-verbal cue that inaccurately informs their understanding of the purely verbal information I'm trying to give them? and does anyone else experience this?