kenaij
AQ score: 38, Aspie Score: asp 142/200 nt 58/200
Hello all.
I have been on these forums for quite some time. Mostly for myself. But today I have a question regarding my son.
He is not officially diagnosed, but my wife, my parents and I all think my son might be on the spectrum.
My father is officially diagnosed, I`m not. However I pretty much have all the same things my father has, and score very high on selftests.
I don`t plan on getting diagnosed because I have a pretty good handle on things myself, and do not feel the need right now to know it officially.
My son will turn 6 this october. We have not done anything regarding diagnosis for him because so far he has had not trouble in school, and we generally know how to act according to his behaviour and needs. This year he started the year in which he starts learning how to read and write. So it is not just play and fun anymore.
He has also been going to speech therapy with either my wife or me.
He has had some shutdowns and meltdowns in the past, but mostly at home and very rarely. We know how he can react to things and keep that in mind as much we can to avoid his discomfort (and our own)
In the school setting it cannot always be prevented. Yesterday I practised with reading and he did very well. He is a very bright young boy. But 10 minutes in he made a mistake by saying the word wrong. I gently told him how to read the word correctly but he immediatly shutdown, turned away. Got tears in his eyes mumbling he cannot do it and walked away to sit on his own. I waited patiently for him to calm down. Talked to him when he came back and tried some other words. After about 15 minutes he did read the word correctly and we stopped right after.
Today in speech therapy my wife told me he had a meltdown again. She is still a little vague when it comes to calling them meltdowns and shutdowns. So I think he had a shutdown. Which took away most of the lesson.
Reading the above I wanted to see how other parents with kids that are (likely) on the spectrum handle these situations. Is it mostly like I handled it. Or do you follow other steps to ease the situation for their child. Or is it nothing more than a patience game like I discribed above?
Thank you all for your input.
I have been on these forums for quite some time. Mostly for myself. But today I have a question regarding my son.
He is not officially diagnosed, but my wife, my parents and I all think my son might be on the spectrum.
My father is officially diagnosed, I`m not. However I pretty much have all the same things my father has, and score very high on selftests.
I don`t plan on getting diagnosed because I have a pretty good handle on things myself, and do not feel the need right now to know it officially.
My son will turn 6 this october. We have not done anything regarding diagnosis for him because so far he has had not trouble in school, and we generally know how to act according to his behaviour and needs. This year he started the year in which he starts learning how to read and write. So it is not just play and fun anymore.
He has also been going to speech therapy with either my wife or me.
He has had some shutdowns and meltdowns in the past, but mostly at home and very rarely. We know how he can react to things and keep that in mind as much we can to avoid his discomfort (and our own)
In the school setting it cannot always be prevented. Yesterday I practised with reading and he did very well. He is a very bright young boy. But 10 minutes in he made a mistake by saying the word wrong. I gently told him how to read the word correctly but he immediatly shutdown, turned away. Got tears in his eyes mumbling he cannot do it and walked away to sit on his own. I waited patiently for him to calm down. Talked to him when he came back and tried some other words. After about 15 minutes he did read the word correctly and we stopped right after.
Today in speech therapy my wife told me he had a meltdown again. She is still a little vague when it comes to calling them meltdowns and shutdowns. So I think he had a shutdown. Which took away most of the lesson.
Reading the above I wanted to see how other parents with kids that are (likely) on the spectrum handle these situations. Is it mostly like I handled it. Or do you follow other steps to ease the situation for their child. Or is it nothing more than a patience game like I discribed above?
Thank you all for your input.