Hadarian
Well-Known Member
Hi. I just joined this site yesterday and you can see how I got here if you read my first post in the introduction forum.
I have been trying so suss out whether or not I have ASD. I've already lived most of my life I would say, either in pain or in extreme solitude and isolation (or both). When I was younger, I don't think anyone knew about ASD, so it was not available to me as an explanation as to why I didn't fit in anywhere and to why I was having such a hard time in life.
As I read some of the posts on this site, and the responses I have gotten on here, it almost feels like coming home. I get tears in my eyes even, reading about some people's experiences and thoughts, because they are mine too.
I would like anyone here, especially with this diagnosis, if you want to, to share with me in this thread, what you think makes you an "Asperger," so I can come to understand more what it means and deduce more precisely if I am one or not, or how I differ from you.
I have several reasons for believing I am not an "Asperger", if I go strictly "by the book." For one thing, I do use these turns of phrase, idioms, figurative language like "by the book" and "par for the course," as well as poetic and abstract language and don't interpret it literally. I am also not an intellectual. Yet for years I have felt an affinity and an understanding for autistic persons and have looked into the possibility that I was autistic, but concluded I am too emotional, too good at reading people's emotions and feeling their emotions, plus too stupid to be autistic or have ASD. However, what I lack in intellect, I think I more than make up for in emotional intelligence, so much that I end up having the same traumatic or mind-boggling experiences of society and people that a lot of you seem to have.
So, for example, I am very sensitive to loud noises, angry or chaotic people, violence (ie in someone's voice even), seeing people pretending to be a way that they are not (phonies), I'm not fond of talking, social phobic, rather be alone. Many things and I don't know which of them are characteristic of ASD, but I seem to experience the world very similarly to many people on here.
I have thought, perhaps there is an emotional version of ASD. As so many things in our world, the extreme ends of a line will end up meeting each other, and we realize it's not two extremes on either end of a line, but it turns out to be a circle, where the two extreme ends meet. So maybe emotion and intellect meet together, like two opposites which actually complement one another. I feel like I and the difficulties I face in my life due to my ability to read emotions and obtain psychological insight into people (and my lack of logic and intellect) could be alleviated by the non-emotional, intellectual-minded Aspergers, and perhaps I could also help them in turn. It seems good to be different in this case, as a symbiotic relationship.
I would also like to say that after reading some things on this site, I think the whole label of ASD should be abolished and everyone else should be labeled mentally ill, because the people on this site make so much sense to me, and what doesn't make sense are the people I have found until this point in my life. I don't understand how they can be deemed sane and I can be deemed insane. They aren't even real.
I have been trying so suss out whether or not I have ASD. I've already lived most of my life I would say, either in pain or in extreme solitude and isolation (or both). When I was younger, I don't think anyone knew about ASD, so it was not available to me as an explanation as to why I didn't fit in anywhere and to why I was having such a hard time in life.
As I read some of the posts on this site, and the responses I have gotten on here, it almost feels like coming home. I get tears in my eyes even, reading about some people's experiences and thoughts, because they are mine too.
I would like anyone here, especially with this diagnosis, if you want to, to share with me in this thread, what you think makes you an "Asperger," so I can come to understand more what it means and deduce more precisely if I am one or not, or how I differ from you.
I have several reasons for believing I am not an "Asperger", if I go strictly "by the book." For one thing, I do use these turns of phrase, idioms, figurative language like "by the book" and "par for the course," as well as poetic and abstract language and don't interpret it literally. I am also not an intellectual. Yet for years I have felt an affinity and an understanding for autistic persons and have looked into the possibility that I was autistic, but concluded I am too emotional, too good at reading people's emotions and feeling their emotions, plus too stupid to be autistic or have ASD. However, what I lack in intellect, I think I more than make up for in emotional intelligence, so much that I end up having the same traumatic or mind-boggling experiences of society and people that a lot of you seem to have.
So, for example, I am very sensitive to loud noises, angry or chaotic people, violence (ie in someone's voice even), seeing people pretending to be a way that they are not (phonies), I'm not fond of talking, social phobic, rather be alone. Many things and I don't know which of them are characteristic of ASD, but I seem to experience the world very similarly to many people on here.
I have thought, perhaps there is an emotional version of ASD. As so many things in our world, the extreme ends of a line will end up meeting each other, and we realize it's not two extremes on either end of a line, but it turns out to be a circle, where the two extreme ends meet. So maybe emotion and intellect meet together, like two opposites which actually complement one another. I feel like I and the difficulties I face in my life due to my ability to read emotions and obtain psychological insight into people (and my lack of logic and intellect) could be alleviated by the non-emotional, intellectual-minded Aspergers, and perhaps I could also help them in turn. It seems good to be different in this case, as a symbiotic relationship.
I would also like to say that after reading some things on this site, I think the whole label of ASD should be abolished and everyone else should be labeled mentally ill, because the people on this site make so much sense to me, and what doesn't make sense are the people I have found until this point in my life. I don't understand how they can be deemed sane and I can be deemed insane. They aren't even real.