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I just assume they are unless they are persistent!How do you know when someone is just being polite?
How do you know when someone is just being polite? Unless you're a mind-reader, you don't. Regardless, accept it as such.How do you know when someone is just being polite?
I grew up in the Midwest of USA and my mother tauhgt many things about politeness and manners. For example, if I was visiting at someone's house and was offered a cookie, I would have to decline twice and could only accept it if it was offered a third time.
This is because the host feels obligated to offer refreshment to guests, but may not want to. Another instance of being polite.
When I moved from the Midwest to New York State, I had to change my behavior because in New York, nobody will ask more than once. If you want it, you better say yes the first time!
What does "just being polite" mean to you?How do you know when someone is just being polite?
Yes, I do suspect what I think is insincerity, but it's so hard to judge. People will say what they think you are looking for, but not mean what they say at all because they don't want to be rude or hurt your feelings. So it's like going around in this morass of confusion trying just to determine what people mean, or if they mean it. As a kid, I was sent to etiquette classes and learned please and thank you, but the truth is those words don't carry much weight. They're things people say trying to be nice, but it seems like deceptionYou're asking how to detect if a person is following
social proprieties, although their thoughts/feelings would
prompt them to behave otherwise?
You suspect people's sincerity?
Yes, I do suspect what I think is insincerity, but it's so hard to judge. People will say what they think you are looking for, but not mean what they say at all because they don't want to be rude or hurt your feelings. So it's like going around in this morass of confusion trying just to determine what people mean, or if they mean it. As a kid, I was sent to etiquette classes and learned please and thank you, but the truth is those words don't carry much weight. They're things people say trying to be nice, but it seems like deception
Maybe they sincerely don't want to be rude or hurt your feelings. If so, that is a very good thing. People tend not to be polite to people they dislike.they don't want to be rude or hurt your feelings
If someone is "trying to be nice," saying something nice is not deception. It is aspirational. Do not rain on people's aspirations.They're things people say trying to be nice, butt it seems like deception