Usually, in my experience, you just get pregnant. Most couples aren't like "We will procreate and issue forth an offspring." Most times it catches you by surprise.
Interesting. My experience is so much different in that most of my friends are on birth control and make a conscious decision with their partners to stop the birth control and start trying to conceive.
Obviously the moment an actual pregnancy happens isn’t a choice, that’s up to nature and chance, but I only know one person my age in which the pregnancy was a surprise (she wasn’t the greatest at taking her birth control pill regularly).
For people that don’t use birth control, it’s different, obviously. In that case I’d say getting pregnant isn’t necessarily a choice, but you are actively choosing not to take measures to drastically lower the chance of pregnancy. So there still is an element of choice.
And in the event you weren’t planning to have children but find yourself pregnant, there still is the element of choice in that pregnancy can be terminated. I’m not being flippant about abortion, but it is still a choice.
So yeah, in my opinion, many many choices involved in having children.
*Edited to say I’m not taking non-consensual sex into account because I assume that’s not what was meant in the original discussion.
As long as you engage in unprotected penetrative heterosexual sex, there is a risk of pregnancy and the choice to engage in this is in my opinion the first of many leading up to having children. I’m not advocating abstinence, I’m just saying there’s a series of decisions leading up to pregnancy