So it's my second time writing now here and I want to thank you all for your advice but I would also like to know if someone has some answers or was in the same shoes as me..
As it goes my boyfriend is now diagnosed as autistic he has aspergers and seems to be more open with everything now but also has a hard hard time in accepting it.. We had a lot of ups and downs.. But he said it is him no matter if it is autism or whatever it is how he is. He is a wonderful guy. Now doubt..
But we had some issues.. After two years of dating and stuff.. We decided to move in together wich he warned me before because he said the flat is to small for two and it will make him crazy. But as everyone knows. Woman have that crazy idea.. Love can go through everything.. I thought we will be ok.. Don't expect the worst... Well after a thousand meltdown on his side.. And him crawling in a shelf of defence. He said in that flat it isn't working. It was my mistake I didn't want it to see.. I did everything for him because I thought would make him more comfortable.. Wich actually made home more withdrawal because he felt guilty that he was so nasty to me.. And didn't know what to do..
We lived now since a 5 months together.. And i decided its the best I move out. Back home... Wich means we will belong distance again. But i thought it is the best so he can clear his mind and we might have the relationship back like we had before the move. He said. If we would have a bigger place it would have worked. So he is planning to sell his flat or rent it in about max 2 years and than we buy a house together..... I decided to go back home so he can recharge and i safe some money.. We will visit each other every few month again..
But what I want to know.. Due to his space issues wich made him feel trapped and he did withdraw from the relationship a bit... Is it possible we can rescue it and be happy again?
He is a great person but I'm also very scared.. To loose him.. He said we need space to appreciate each other again. And i deserve a not evil version of him.. Wich is not nice to say because due to his struggle it was not his fault.. So im here for 5 more weeks.. He tries to spend as much time as he can until i leave and is very nice and understanding but I'm just sad wich is very selfish of me.. And question if he really has feelings for me.. Wich is also stupid.. He is now i feel like the person he is. He doesn't hide things anymore or tries to be someone else. I'm very thankful that he could open up finally
I just hope I made the right desicion for a is together when the time is right
As it goes my boyfriend is now diagnosed as autistic he has aspergers and seems to be more open with everything now but also has a hard hard time in accepting it.. We had a lot of ups and downs.. But he said it is him no matter if it is autism or whatever it is how he is. He is a wonderful guy. Now doubt..
But we had some issues.. After two years of dating and stuff.. We decided to move in together wich he warned me before because he said the flat is to small for two and it will make him crazy. But as everyone knows. Woman have that crazy idea.. Love can go through everything.. I thought we will be ok.. Don't expect the worst... Well after a thousand meltdown on his side.. And him crawling in a shelf of defence. He said in that flat it isn't working. It was my mistake I didn't want it to see.. I did everything for him because I thought would make him more comfortable.. Wich actually made home more withdrawal because he felt guilty that he was so nasty to me.. And didn't know what to do..
We lived now since a 5 months together.. And i decided its the best I move out. Back home... Wich means we will belong distance again. But i thought it is the best so he can clear his mind and we might have the relationship back like we had before the move. He said. If we would have a bigger place it would have worked. So he is planning to sell his flat or rent it in about max 2 years and than we buy a house together..... I decided to go back home so he can recharge and i safe some money.. We will visit each other every few month again..
But what I want to know.. Due to his space issues wich made him feel trapped and he did withdraw from the relationship a bit... Is it possible we can rescue it and be happy again?
He is a great person but I'm also very scared.. To loose him.. He said we need space to appreciate each other again. And i deserve a not evil version of him.. Wich is not nice to say because due to his struggle it was not his fault.. So im here for 5 more weeks.. He tries to spend as much time as he can until i leave and is very nice and understanding but I'm just sad wich is very selfish of me.. And question if he really has feelings for me.. Wich is also stupid.. He is now i feel like the person he is. He doesn't hide things anymore or tries to be someone else. I'm very thankful that he could open up finally
I just hope I made the right desicion for a is together when the time is right