jamesaldrin
Well-Known Member
I just found out that I have Aspergers five months ago. Since then, I've sort of not stopped thinking about it. I see myself under the lenses of someone with Autism. Like, I don't see myself as "James Aldrin". I see myself as "Guy with Autism James Aldrin." All of my achievments, memories, failures are clouded with the idea that they were influenced by autism. Obviously autism influences me, but I don't want to see it as the controller of my life anymore.
I want to return to being "James Aldrin."
I want to think of myself as James Aldrin, who just happens to have autism but autism is just something that he happens to has; it does not define him.
(James Aldrin, by the way, is a made-up name. There is a story behind it.)
Before I was diagnosed, but after years of teaching myself social skills, I was able to blend in well [edit: I guess this is just denial. I blended in okay, but not well]. I still had obsessions and would stim when nobody was watching, and had to force good body language, but I got close. To people who got to know me, I was still noticeably different from others, but would often pass as quiet or mysterious (to a former love-interest) or nerdy. Even if they knew that something was up with me (one guy knew that I had autism before I even did) though, it was okay. I found friends who accepted me as who I am and even celebrated my uniqueness.
The diagnosis shook me up and put a dent in my motivation. This will only be temporary; I won't let it be permanent.
I guess that I shouldn't look to the past. I can not return to a time before I was diagnosed. I must look to a future instead. I must look to becoming, as I have said above, "James Aldrin, a normal guy who just happens to have autism." I already have thought / still think of myself as a normal guy who just happens to be into feet (sexually). This shouldn't be much different.
I think I know how to do this. I have planned it out. Whenever I obsess over something, I need to flush it out. To do that, I need to indulge in my obsession for however long it takes until it naturally finishes its course. I was addicted to the website "reddit" for a half year and wanted to stop. I couldn't stop; I would come straight back to it if I tried to hold myself back. After indulging in reddit for a half year, though, it started to die down as other interests replaced it. So, I will do the same with Aspiescentral.
I will indulge in Aspiescentral to my heart's content. I will indulge in my Aspergers diagnosis to my hearts content. And soon, likely in a few months time, my obsession will fade, and Aspergers will become just another "era" in my life.
I am open to suggestions about other methods, but have confidence in this method.
I want to return to being "James Aldrin."
I want to think of myself as James Aldrin, who just happens to have autism but autism is just something that he happens to has; it does not define him.
(James Aldrin, by the way, is a made-up name. There is a story behind it.)
Before I was diagnosed, but after years of teaching myself social skills, I was able to blend in well [edit: I guess this is just denial. I blended in okay, but not well]. I still had obsessions and would stim when nobody was watching, and had to force good body language, but I got close. To people who got to know me, I was still noticeably different from others, but would often pass as quiet or mysterious (to a former love-interest) or nerdy. Even if they knew that something was up with me (one guy knew that I had autism before I even did) though, it was okay. I found friends who accepted me as who I am and even celebrated my uniqueness.
The diagnosis shook me up and put a dent in my motivation. This will only be temporary; I won't let it be permanent.
I guess that I shouldn't look to the past. I can not return to a time before I was diagnosed. I must look to a future instead. I must look to becoming, as I have said above, "James Aldrin, a normal guy who just happens to have autism." I already have thought / still think of myself as a normal guy who just happens to be into feet (sexually). This shouldn't be much different.
I think I know how to do this. I have planned it out. Whenever I obsess over something, I need to flush it out. To do that, I need to indulge in my obsession for however long it takes until it naturally finishes its course. I was addicted to the website "reddit" for a half year and wanted to stop. I couldn't stop; I would come straight back to it if I tried to hold myself back. After indulging in reddit for a half year, though, it started to die down as other interests replaced it. So, I will do the same with Aspiescentral.
I will indulge in Aspiescentral to my heart's content. I will indulge in my Aspergers diagnosis to my hearts content. And soon, likely in a few months time, my obsession will fade, and Aspergers will become just another "era" in my life.
I am open to suggestions about other methods, but have confidence in this method.
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