Hello,
I was in a relationship with a man for several years that became increasingly frustrating so I left. I always thought we loved eachother a lot but could not find how to communicate. What I felt was disregard and unkindness became unbearable. I was then told he may have Asperger's. I looked it up and indeed the description matched his profile remarkably well. Suddenly, I looked at him in a different light, it explained everything. We still see eachother as 'friends' but I am getting contradictory messages: one day he's very nice, charming and tender (almost as if he was courting me) and two days later he is distant, cold and secretive to a point that is upsetting.
Anyone out there has experience in adapting to this? Has anyone succeeded in accepting the person for what he is? Understanding why he does this or doesn't do that? Coping with having things on his terms, not yours?
Thank you.
I was in a relationship with a man for several years that became increasingly frustrating so I left. I always thought we loved eachother a lot but could not find how to communicate. What I felt was disregard and unkindness became unbearable. I was then told he may have Asperger's. I looked it up and indeed the description matched his profile remarkably well. Suddenly, I looked at him in a different light, it explained everything. We still see eachother as 'friends' but I am getting contradictory messages: one day he's very nice, charming and tender (almost as if he was courting me) and two days later he is distant, cold and secretive to a point that is upsetting.
Anyone out there has experience in adapting to this? Has anyone succeeded in accepting the person for what he is? Understanding why he does this or doesn't do that? Coping with having things on his terms, not yours?
Thank you.