DogwoodTree
Still here...
Do you ever get friend crushes?
A friend crush is when there's someone you really want to be friends with--totally platonic, not sexual at all, but can be either gender/any age--and the desire is so great, that you become a bumbling idiot any time you're around them.
In my experience, friend crushes are just as painful as the romantic crushes I used to get before I met my husband. Nearly all of my friend crushes are unrequited (meaning, the other person doesn't particularly care to be my friend), and what social skills I have with most people are completely useless when the friend-crush person is nearby.
What's more, I haven't yet been able to identify the pattern of who becomes the focus of a friend crush for me...why one person might become an interest, but so many other people might as well not exist.
I also would really like to stop getting them altogether. It's destabilizing and useless and painful and confusing.
A friend crush is when there's someone you really want to be friends with--totally platonic, not sexual at all, but can be either gender/any age--and the desire is so great, that you become a bumbling idiot any time you're around them.
In my experience, friend crushes are just as painful as the romantic crushes I used to get before I met my husband. Nearly all of my friend crushes are unrequited (meaning, the other person doesn't particularly care to be my friend), and what social skills I have with most people are completely useless when the friend-crush person is nearby.
What's more, I haven't yet been able to identify the pattern of who becomes the focus of a friend crush for me...why one person might become an interest, but so many other people might as well not exist.
I also would really like to stop getting them altogether. It's destabilizing and useless and painful and confusing.