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Do you get anxiety before entering a room with people in it?

I remember that I always hated being late to school. I preferred to be early, get into class, take my seat and blend in with everyone else. I hated walking in late as that brought unwanted attention to myself. I didn't want to stand out from everyone else and have the whole class focus on me as I walked in by myself, late.
 
Droopy said:
I remember that I always hated being late to school. I preferred to be early, get into class, take my seat and blend in with everyone else. I hated walking in late as that brought unwanted attention to myself. I didn't want to stand out from everyone else and have the whole class focus on me as I walked in by myself, late.
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I was the same way!! I either wanted to be early, or on time. I always thought I was just overly punctual...now I'm not so sure. :)
 
robertwnielsen said:
I was the same way!! I either wanted to be early, or on time. I always thought I was just overly punctual...now I'm not so sure. :)
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Me too! Me too! I always made sure I was super early for everything or if I had to just on time. I hate being late. The way everyone turns and looks at you the attention the way it feels at least everyone is watching you. Although at least at my work the only people who know I'm running behind are people who know that I tend to like to be there at least ten minutes:cute: early.
 
Arashi222 said:
Me too! Me too! I always made sure I was super early for everything or if I had to just on time. I hate being late. The way everyone turns and looks at you the attention the way it feels at least everyone is watching you. Although at least at my work the only people who know I'm running behind are people who know that I tend to like to be there at least ten minutes:cute: early.
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Good point. Like I said before, I always thought I was just overly punctual...now, I'm wondering if it wasn't a manifestation of my PDD-NOS. Probably a little of both. :)
 
robertwnielsen said:
Good point. Like I said before, I always thought I was just overly punctual...now, I'm wondering if it wasn't a manifestation of my PDD-NOS. Probably a little of both. :)
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Its funny how when you look back at things and realize that maybe its not just quirky thing that maybe it is part of something else and its such a big part of who you are that you don't even realize until you look at it that its part of AS or PDD-NoS, Or autism or whatever. For me it sends me into a panic. I had a friend who would always be late finally I told her flat out that if she was going to be consistently and hour late that she needed to call me because I hate walking into a doll meet late and everyone else is all set up. They stare at you...and I hate that feeling like wondering what they are thinking.:cute:
 
Arashi222 said:
Its funny how when you look back at things and realize that maybe its not just quirky thing that maybe it is part of something else and its such a big part of who you are that you don't even realize until you look at it that its part of AS or PDD-NoS, Or autism or whatever. For me it sends me into a panic. I had a friend who would always be late finally I told her flat out that if she was going to be consistently and hour late that she needed to call me because I hate walking into a doll meet late and everyone else is all set up. They stare at you...and I hate that feeling like wondering what they are thinking.:cute:
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Agreed--I've looked back at a lot of my habits since I was diagnosed, and realized that they were probably part of my PDD-NOS
 
Kit said:
Not really. But I do get anxiety when it comes to talking because I am afraid of making myself look stupid or saying the wrong thing. I swear I am getting more and more paranoid as I get older and I maybe have some low self esteem about myself.
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Yes! That's me too!! But mostly it's just not knowing how to start or maintain a socially acceptable conversation! And a lot of what people talk about at parties isn't very interesting to me. Then I don't want to appear impolitely eavesdropping, either. But then I feel strange standing all alone- It's very awkward!! The only thing that helps is a glass of wine or 2.....
 
I can go out shopping with no trouble if the trip I'd well planned- a list prepared of what is needed, etc AND I know where I am going & how to get there. Problems arise when I DON'T know how to get there- big time panic!
But Social occasions are tricky. I don't know how to converse socially or start a conversation! I am afraid of either saying something inappropriate, invasive or offensive. And a lot of 'party talk' is not very interesting to me. But then I feel awkward standing all by myself.... The only thing that helps is a glass of wine, or 2.
 
Oh heck, YES! I want to turn away!

I HATE going to our dr's, because the room is small and there is always people there and the silence is just awful, but I take my tablet and play games, and that calms my nerves down, otherwise, my stomach starts talking to me and that makes me go into panic mode!

Once I am in the room, I feel a little better, but it freaks me out, on entering, because everything so so loud and frightening to me and my anxiety goes up several notches.
 
Yes i do. It doesn't matter how many people are in the room, i get nervous all the same. If its a public place like the grocery store i'm not anxious, though, just because i know people in that sort of environment are focused on themselves and what they are doing. But if its a place like a classroom or the waiting room i'm anxious because in that sort of room, people aren't busy they're waiting, bored, or easily distracted and will notice me and whatever i'm doing.
 
Always. The less I know people, the greater the anxiety. It is what it is.

But now I KNOW what "it" is.
 
I am always anxious entering a room unescorted, unless, and this is weird, I am walking out on to a stage.

Perhaps it's because in entering a room I have no idea where the focus is, but when I walked on stage I knew exactly where the focus was.
 
Always. If everybody is standing up and moving about, I don't worry as much, but if it's a classroom or some kind of assembly, I'd rather get their first.
 
Yes, I feel incredibly self-conscious if I have to go into a room full of people. I don't feel so bad if it's a place where people are coming or going all the time, such as a large doctor's waiting room, but if it's some sort of social gathering or a meeting I feel very awkward. I never go to such places on my own. I used to be a school teacher, and walking into a classroom of new kids at the beginning of term was excruciating.
 
Yes, extreme anxiety if I don't know the people. If I don't know anyone, like the first day of a class, I like to be one of the first ones there and sit towards the back. If I'm a little late, I'll try to sit towards the back and on the end closest to the door in case I have to make a quick exit. :D
 
I was invited out for my first ever Christmas do with the Rethink mental health charity group last week. Most thankfully, I didn't have to go in alone as I'd given one of the staff a lift. But walking into the pub/restaurant, full of people I didn't know, was horrendous; I felt totally out of my element, just stood there awkwardly, not knowing what to do.
I managed to relax and was fairly fine after about two hours.. I force myself to do stuff because I know I'd feel worse about myself if I didn't!
Got my second ever Christmas do this friday.. :eek:
 
nurseangela said:
Yes, extreme anxiety if I don't know the people. If I don't know anyone, like the first day of a class, I like to be one of the first ones there and sit towards the back. If I'm a little late, I'll try to sit towards the back and on the end closest to the door in case I have to make a quick exit. :D
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Well, I get panic attack when I meet on a coffee with +1 people I don't know.

Luckily, there are many ways you can work on those anxiety issues. I didn't have a panic attack for about 4 months. :)
 
Yes, to such an extent that it interferes with my life and study, as I refuse to enter uni lectures late and instead forgo them altogether - and I cannot attend social functions alone unless I know precisely who will be present and where they will be.
 
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