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Can you be happy with living alone for a long time?

Discussion in 'Love, Relationships and Dating' started by ryan1205, Feb 17, 2017.

  1. ryan1205

    ryan1205 Mr. I Don't Know

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    I'm not saying that I am alone. I have many friends and besides, I am only 19. But sometimes I worry how life will turn out when I am in my mid 20s to 30s. I feel that I might be alone for a long time to come, and when I mean alone, I mean having that special someone in your life.

    I was never good with girls and never had dated anyone, I only been kissed once and only been best friends with one girl who I had a thing for in high school. For me, I believe I need to find the right person but I know it won't be easy for me as I never had played the field. As of now, I really don't plan on trying to date anyone because I am too focus on school and work.

    I am currently happy now, all I need is my friends and something to keep me busy from thinking about the hard times of the past. But when (or if) I finish college, I feel that I will live alone by myself or maybe with friends. I know the best thing to do when living alone is to keep busy and not think about what you want but only what you need.

    So my question is, is it possible to live alone, or with roommates/friends without having a significant other in your life? This is what I've been asking my self for quite sometime but I will need to worry about in the future.
     
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  2. The Penguin

    The Penguin Chilly Willy The Penguin V.I.P Member

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    Appsolutely.

    I been living on my own since 17 and now I am 34. Between most of these years been living alone. The exception there was a couple years I lived with family again and 3 months my ex use to live with me. So that works out 14.5 years living alone or let keep it simple and say 15.

    Anyhow for those 15 years and my engagement of people visiting me per year works out less than 3% on average. Some years near to 0%.

    I had many people abandoned me. So I decided not to be too dependent on people and focus on a life alone. If you look at my post of me thinking of being a hermit, I am working on making this reality. In some sense I am already a hermit. You also notice with many of my posts I can find endless things to enjoy myself alone. This weekend making it a dam good weekend enjoying many things alone. Got this new RC car I going to play in the cold on ice and snow while filming it.

    Most people I speak with can't handle things alone.

    I can't advise anything for you. Anyhow you know some details of a person with experience living alone.
     
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  3. OkRad

    OkRad Well-Known Member

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    I am mixed on this. As I get older, I really like to be alone, but I am not safe alone. I don't self harm, but I get very confused when I alone too long.

    However, it is best for me and I do realize I should not be around many people. I have a family that loves me, so I try to make them happy but it's a fine line because often they do not want me around very much.
     
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  4. Clintos

    Clintos Well-Known Member V.I.P Member

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    You'll be ok living alone, it takes a while to get use to it, but you might actually get use to it. An idle mind is the devils play ground, so keep busy and do not isolate yourself like I have done in the past.
     
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  5. Peatsmoke

    Peatsmoke Furiously sleeping indigo restlessness

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    I think it's definitely possible to live with roommates, friends or not. I did this for years, and I've known several people who have done this more or less permanently since they left home. It seems to be more common than it used to be, probably because there are more single people than in the past - more people have realised that being in a relationship doesn't really agree with them.

    Living without a "significant other" does have advantages: you can have as much "alone time" as you need, and you have more freedom in general. Also, some people really like being alone, and find it draining to be around anyone else for more than a short time. It really depends on your personality: ask yourself what kind of person you are.
     
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  6. Judge

    Judge Well-Known Member

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    I've lived completely alone for nearly the last ten years straight.

    It can be done. Though at times it can be lonely. Other times it's soothing.

    Especially given a lack of predictable, intrusive noise living in an apartment unit.
     
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  7. Rich Allen

    Rich Allen Well-Known Member

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    I've lived alone for just over 10 and half years in a Housing Association Flat, I admit I do get lonely at night sometimes, so I just play on Xbox or come on the Internet for a couple of hours then hit the sack.

    Having said that though, I do prefer living alone than with Housemates, I had that back in my student days and hated it, for the sheer fact I couldn't get anywhere near the Bathroom in a morning if I didn't get up before everyone else did, which is a big problem for me because I tend to wake up bursting for a wee.
     
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  8. toothless

    toothless this is mr shadow,my support cat V.I.P Member

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    awesome,i shall look forward to your video if you post it on your channel, i LOVE RC cars and used to have a thunder tiger model,loved racing it in the snow,theyre just expensive to get fixed if you cant do it yourself though, and they stop making the parts after a while.

    as for the original topic, i love being alone with my animals,i regulary absorb myself into my own world and dont even recognise people around me [i have to have constant 24/7 1-1 support] until i choose to let them in,which makes me quite unhappy,i am ok as i am,id like to have likeminded friends though who dont have any social and communication expectations,i have a best friend called peter who is like that as he has CP and has a severe speech impairment with moderate-severe intellectual disability,we are a perfect couple in terms of friendship we just chill together,except he was quickly moved from the old place i got kicked out of and into a adult adoption service;and because he cant speak to my staff and im not allowed to have his address because of 'data protection' issues i am missing my friend.
     
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    A dog makes a better partner and makes me stay on the ground. She doesn't seem to mind that I'm...... special.
     
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  10. The Penguin

    The Penguin Chilly Willy The Penguin V.I.P Member

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    Thanks. Video will be dam good when it ready. I can now film with up to 4 cameras. One of them will be mounted on the car. But yeah RC can be expensive to fix indeed if you can't do it yourself.

    I think animals is the way to go if the person can enjoy animals company.