I can definitely understand the struggle of controlling anger and unfortunately, anger seems to be one of the darker and more powerful of emotions. Perhaps autism is part of the reason, as with autism, emotions can be a bit difficult to understand and it can make emotions difficult to manage, especially if one doesn't realize its presence until too late. It wasn't until late in my life that I could start getting a grip on my emotions; controlling it rather than it controlling me. If you sort of think about it, a person has a mind (logic) and a figurative heart (emotion). I don't know if this little trick will help you but I know it helps me: 1) be aware of emotions at all times along with its cause, 2) when the anger comes, stop and think, don't feel, 3) focus on something else, 4) look at the anger with a logical approach before something irrational is said or done, 5) think of the longrun effect of dwelling on anger and try not to dwell on the anger for too long. It is very hard to do sometimes and requires nerves, patience, self-control, and strength of steel and I admit it's much easier said than done. It helps to have a really good balance of emotion and logic. Is it reasonable that what is causing the anger is causing anger? Is it or is it not worth the energy to deal with it and why or why not? It's not fun being angry and it's not fun for the people around. So if you can find a way to get a hold on little tricks to calm down, you'll likely be in a better position to avoid conflict with yourself and others as well. I hope this is helpful. If not, my apologies. It is only a suggestion.
