BewilderedPerson
Well-Known Member
There are few things I hate more in this world than double standards and hypocrisy, no matter what of life it is.
It seems to me they are especially prevalent when it comes to dating, and I’d like to share some examples.
The first example - as supportive as this forum is of me, my sincere gratitude, I’ve noticed people post on here, even ask me directly, what I can offer a woman, a woman has her goals, her dreams.
Okay, what about my goals and my dreams? What can a partner do for me? How many women have even considered doing something for me? It hasn’t been many.
And I’m not talking about giving me something of monetary value. The only thing I want from a woman is her.
Another one I see a lot, saying women aren’t objects, they much discourage use of language perceived as objectifying women.
That’s all great until I know women objectify men, that they size them up within seconds of meeting them if they’ll ever sleep with them or not.
You don’t want to be objectified? You want men to see you as people? That’s cool, just don’t objectify us or doom us within of even meeting us, without even knowing what kind of person we even are.
If we value looks into a partner, men are shallow, but women are just going for ‘attractiveness.’
To help give me some more fulfillment, I’m wanting to donate to a sperm bank and father a child, and hopefully have some kind of relationship with said child at some point in my life.
I saw a YouTube commenter lashing out accusing a donor of entitlement and the mother gets to decide which sperm to use for good genetics.
But the mother is entitled to good genetics for the child, then? Is that right?
I’d just thought I’d point some of this out, because I’m ready to love someone, give my heart to her and for her to take advantage of whatever good qualities I might have - but very few do and not for long.
And it doesn’t help having to wade through all of this while being on the spectrum and double standards existing in the world of dating.
It seems to me they are especially prevalent when it comes to dating, and I’d like to share some examples.
The first example - as supportive as this forum is of me, my sincere gratitude, I’ve noticed people post on here, even ask me directly, what I can offer a woman, a woman has her goals, her dreams.
Okay, what about my goals and my dreams? What can a partner do for me? How many women have even considered doing something for me? It hasn’t been many.
And I’m not talking about giving me something of monetary value. The only thing I want from a woman is her.
Another one I see a lot, saying women aren’t objects, they much discourage use of language perceived as objectifying women.
That’s all great until I know women objectify men, that they size them up within seconds of meeting them if they’ll ever sleep with them or not.
You don’t want to be objectified? You want men to see you as people? That’s cool, just don’t objectify us or doom us within of even meeting us, without even knowing what kind of person we even are.
If we value looks into a partner, men are shallow, but women are just going for ‘attractiveness.’
To help give me some more fulfillment, I’m wanting to donate to a sperm bank and father a child, and hopefully have some kind of relationship with said child at some point in my life.
I saw a YouTube commenter lashing out accusing a donor of entitlement and the mother gets to decide which sperm to use for good genetics.
But the mother is entitled to good genetics for the child, then? Is that right?
I’d just thought I’d point some of this out, because I’m ready to love someone, give my heart to her and for her to take advantage of whatever good qualities I might have - but very few do and not for long.
And it doesn’t help having to wade through all of this while being on the spectrum and double standards existing in the world of dating.