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    Issues letting go of a past relationship

    rave23, we've all been there, but as has already been mentioned - the only way to truly get over a break up is a clean break. It seems nice to keep a former loved one in our life and to be friends, but in my experience you can only truly become real friends if there has been some time off from...
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    Fear of Abandonment and Sabotage

    Is fear of abandonment a common trait for Aspies? I am starting to realize that it is not just my AS, but a fear of abandonment, that make relationships so internally difficult for me. My mother died when I was 20 and my father died when I was 34 and although I have dealt in part with the loss...
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    Depression - Just Snap Out of It

    I missed that part by Dragon's Tooth and I totally agree. When I have too much free time, I can't focus because I don't know where to start the myriad of things I have to do or should do or really don't need to do, but want to do. I tend to obsess over my relationships when I have too much time...
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    Do you keep track of lists?

    Sometimes I use lists as a reminder to do some of the things I really don't want to do. If there is a specific call I really don't want to make, I feel like if I keep it on a list that I keep looking at, eventually I will succumb and do it. So I end up with a list with all these things crossed...
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    Depression - Just Snap Out of It

    fjord, I do think circumstances are the main component to depression and acknowledging that you are in a bad spot is a good thing. If everything is going poorly, it is annoying when people tell you to look at the bright side. Yes, there is always something good to say, but it doesn't always feel...
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    Depression - Just Snap Out of It

    I hear you on that Undiagnosed. When people (mostly in relationships) are having an uncomfortable conversation with me or criticizing me (even constructively), I tend to avert my eyes and stare at something. That stare becomes a "sad" look to others when I am just trying to stay focused and not...
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    Depression - Just Snap Out of It

    So true King_Oni! Meds for depression can be dangerous and they scared me when I stopped taking them abruptly and my body and mind experienced some crazy things - shakes, graphic nightmares and I slept a ton. If things that are supposed to help level me out cause me to suffer delirium tremens, I...
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    Taking everything personally in a relationship

    I just can't get myself to put that pen to paper to write down what is ailing me first to see how it might not be as bad as it seems in my head. I want to, I just can't get myself to do it and I think it will help a lot if I do. Part of me is just embarrassed that I need to do that to digest a...
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    Help for Dating Someone with High Functioning Autism

    I think it's a great sign that he was open with his Autism or AS on the first date and I think that bears well for potential future dates. If you want to best keep things comfortable, communicate with him openly and don't expect him to pick up on nuance in a conversation. Be straight forward and...
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    Dating your friends

    I think people say not to date friends because of what could happen to the friendship if the relationship were not to work out. If you have a best friend and then you try to date and it fails, it is hard to get back to where you were as best friends in a lot of cases and many people then wish...
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    Depression - Just Snap Out of It

    I really feel for everyone on this thread and appreciate all the openness. I didn't know about AS until I was in my late 30s and before I knew about AS a therapist found me to be depressed and convinced me to go on medication. I was depressed, but not regularly clinically depressed and I never...
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    obsessed with arrangment?

    As King_Oni said, I too find the bagging or boxing of groceries like a puzzle. I will never let anyone bag my groceries because I like the cold stuff with the cold stuff, the toiletries together and I like a bag that is full and equally weighted. I also like packing for trips, laying the shirts...
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    Do you keep track of lists?

    I have been a list maker since birth. Way before I even knew about AS, as a child I was making list after list of sports statistics, friends, songs, etc. Still to this day, even with the advent of technological advancements in list making, I use index cards to write things down that I need to...
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    Taking everything personally in a relationship

    Exactly Bay, that's kind of why I came here - thanks. And here I can get some feedback, it's great. I take so much personally in life, in love and at work, that I have had to learn to never send that first email or text when I am upset and sometimes to never send that second email or text when I...
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    Taking everything personally in a relationship

    Thanks to Jesse, Bay and wyverary for the responses. I was beginning to think that this post had fallen on deaf ears. The feedback makes me feel so much better and I really appreciate it. Let me respond in differing parts because as many Aspies do, I like lists and separation. Jesse: I was...
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