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Recent content by Cyanide Lollipop

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    Not a nice person

    Wow! If he isn't perfect (and I'm sure he isn't) then he is obviously lazy and needs to improve. I hope his good points greatly outweigh his bad ones. Does he consider himself stuck with you and resent it? Has he discussed his opinion of MS and AS with a therapist?
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    Not a nice person

    Thinking to do nice, helpful things for others does not come naturally to Aspies. I was raised to be considerate to other people and I was taught specific examples of how to do this. I do those things without really thinking about it now because I've been doing them for many years. But in this...
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    Group work

    Have you ever wished you worked better in a group? I found this today on Facebook and it mimics my experiences with group work, so my inner cynic says don't worry if you don't work well in groups because you're not missing much anyway!
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    NPD /ASD what's the relationship?

    Diagnosing conditions in the DSM seems to include a whole lot of guesswork. I'm reading "The Book of Woe: The DSM and the Unmaking of Psychiatry" by Gary Greenberg at the moment and it's a worry. Conditions are listed in the DSM where field trials have existed of low numbers of subjects and some...
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    Using TAGteach to overcome the challenges of autism

    I use clicker training with animals, especially my dogs, and I'm very familiar with several of the publications of Karen Pryor. The same principles can also be used to teach humans in a variety of physical activities and the method is known as TAGteach. Karen Pryor's latest newsletter references...
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    Help me to understand conflict...

    My mother (who has a lot of AS traits and I suspect is AS too) is bad for conflicts. She just has to be right all the time. If someone is wrong, it doesn't matter how unimportant it is, she won't let it go and just has to tell them. It costs her friendships too.
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    Do you read?

    I'm currently reading The Book of Woe: the DSM and the unmaking of psychiatry by Gary Greenberg. It's quite disturbing. :eek:
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    As an AS female I can only talk to guys online

    Kick these guys to the kerb. They're very shallow and don't deserve you. If you ever became disfigured, chronically ill or incapacitated in some way they would be off out the door in a heartbeat. You will probably also find that the very attractive man who is obsessed with his appearance is very...
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    As an AS female I can only talk to guys online

    I find it extremely difficult to meet men via a dating website or to go in person to any place with the intention of meeting men. I found the Meetup website to be very helpful (Find Meetup groups near you - Meetup). Basically, choose some groups that have the same interests as you and go along...
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    Outed at Work

    I think that's a good way to look at it. If you don't tell your employer and then end up in a position with so much stress that you cannot handle it, you're likely to get fired. Better to stick with what you can cope with and have the employer happy with your work.
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    Do You Like to Cook?

    I've noticed that people who have a very restrictive diet - as in not liking a lot of foods, as opposed to choosing not to eat certain foods for other reasons - often don't like cooking, eat a bland diet and frequently have difficulty deciding what to eat. I eat a wide range of foods and I find...
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    Structure Journal - For Simplicity's Sake

    Mmm.. well you've mentioned a problem with meal planning, which is addressed on the site. I've also used the same strategies and principles that are recommended on that site for managing "women's work" quite successfully for streamlining practices in my workplace, helping work colleagues to...
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    Outed at Work

    It was bad that someone outed you, but now that it's out there, it could be a good opportunity to inform others and highlight the benefits that people with AS bring to the workplace. Organisation, focus, innovative thinking and rational detachment are frequently viewed as desirable qualities.
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    Structure Journal - For Simplicity's Sake

    I think it's a great idea. There's a really useful website for getting organised at home at FlyLady.net. You may also choose to subscribe to emails (sent each day) if you wish.
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    Do You Like to Cook?

    I enjoy cooking, trying new recipes and then modifying them. It's more healthy than consuming ready-prepared meals from the supermarket or dining out, and frequently much cheaper too. I think it is a nice way to show that you care for someone, or someone else shows that they care for me when...
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